As a woman, I think our gender was raised that way back in the 50's, then add in the effect of Christianity. UGH! It took me a lot of years to accept who I am and be comfortable in my own skin. I don't try anymore because I'm fine with who and what I am
I generally stick to the laws of the land: can't play fairer than that.
Fuck that shit. I tried most of my youth to fit in and I just don't. if you don't like it do the other thing.
I try to be accepted because it is too much of a bother to deal with people who disagree. Call me lazy, but I prefer not deal with people who are different. I am chill person so conflict and disagreeing is just not my style.