Ladies, how were you proposed to ? Was it what you expected ?
Nope. It was so low key, I nearly missed it!
We needed to be celebrating something in order to get free champagne at the restaurant where we both worked. He suggested telling them we had just gotten engaged. He MEANT it!
Both the champagne AND the marriage were fantastic! (;
I was taken to dinner for my birthday - to a restaurant that used to be an old church so it was quite beautiful - all the stained glass windows, etc etc. After we were seated, the waiter came to take our drink orders and when he returned with our drinks, he set a saucer and inverted cup in front of me. As I lifted the cup, I saw the velvet ring box....the rest is history.
P.S. My husband later admitted that he has never been so nervous in his whole life as when he gave that ring to a total stranger (the waiter) and hoped to hell the guy wouldn't slip out the backdoor and make a run for it.... hahahahahaha
Why should it always be the man who proposes?
All this stuff has echos of Patriarchy. I'm dismayed that some men today still ask for a girlfriend's father's 'permission' to marry, as if the woman is a cow being gifted from one family to another. No thought to ask the woman first.
Om my first date with Bob, we looked at each other and said, "Where have you been all my life?" We decided to wait a month before even telling anyone. It seemed so crazy to know that we had finally found each other. We got married six months later. We had 17 great years together (until he passed away.) I would never believe this if it had not happened to me.
He wrote a letter detailing all the reasons why I shouldn't marry him, gave it to me to read, and when I was finished reading it, he was like "well?" and I was like "??" and then he had to explain that it was meant to be a proposal. I don't know really what I expected, but that wasn't it.
Probs shoulda taken that letter more seriously.
Sorry to say my first wife proposed to me (I said I'll think about it). When I proposed to my late wife it was at a famous waterfall here in Washington State. It was a beautiful day and the falls were running at full force. She said okay but I want you to take me to a park along the water and propose at sunset. She thought this would be more romantic! So I had to ask twice.