What are your views on meaningless sex?
Personally, I think I have an unusual attitude towards sex. I enjoy it as a deeply connecting experience between lovers, but I also see it as an enjoyable social interaction and would be completely happy if we lived in a society where sexual contact was as common as a hug — between people of any gender and age, and regardless of relationship status.
By society's standards that's considered unhealthy, and I — of course — wouldn't step outside of the 'societal contract', nor would I go off and have casual sex if my partner would be offended by that.
But I see it like this: is sex shameful? Corrupting? 'Dirty'? Is carnality something we should feel bad about? I'd say no — not without religion telling us so. I've never been able to connect to society's anxiety about sexuality. But that does just seem to be me — I may have something psychological going on there, but it doesn't worry me too deeply.
I've had meaningless sex in my youth. One night stands etc. I never planned for them to be one night stands, it's just how they turned out.
They seemed exciting at the time and a source of ego boosting affirmation. Then one Sunday morning, after a one night stand the previous night, I found myself stood alone at bus stop in a town I didn't know.
I felt completely empty on the inside in a way I've never felt before, and I vowed to never have casual sex again.
I went through a "slutty phase" and meaningless sex was not necessarily the goal, but I was ok with it. Well mostly ok with it, so many guys are selfish in bed and/or don't realize that women can actually orgasm if you put a little bit of effort into it. I'm ready for something meaningful now though. In the meantime I have a few FWB that we take care of our mutual needs.
*Please, no one take offense at the term slutty phase. I own my sexuality and am not ashamed of it. That being said...it was sort of a slutty phase, lol.
There are hormonal influences during sex that encourage attachment. If interested you can start here: [sitn.hms.harvard.edu]
Those seem to affect some people more than others. Hurt feelings can develop from that imbalance. People can manipulate.
There are STDs and medical implications.
I've had enough.
There is no such thing as meaningless sex. You can share a wonderful and meaningful sexual experience with someone which lasts a couple of hours, a couple of weeks, a couple of years or a lifetime.
Meaningful experiences with other human beings should not have a criteria attached to them. If it was good and fulfilling for the parties involved for as long as it lasted, then that's all that matters.
Meaning is something you give to things, not a property of things. It is only meaningless if you want it to be so; you can give any meaning to any act you want, including sex. Now, if you want your sex to be meaningless, then it's your choice and I don't see any problem with it.