Why, at 52 years old, I feel like I've never been truly loved?
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I am sorry you feel like you have never been loved! I doubt that is the case, because, your mom surely loved you when you came into the world! Now, that my children are your age, I wonder the same from their end! Maybe it has always been like so when people age! As for romantic love, unless that kind of relationship works out long term...we loved and lost! It is easy to forget that we were loved after we are in a ‘long dry spell’...when it comes to affection and love! We must keep connecting to others and find love...however it shows up! I think that loneliness can be mistaken for feelings of not being loved! I care...
Freedompath
Level 9
May 22, 2018
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I recently had this same dicussion with a female friend. We both are middle children and deterrmend that it was related. So out of curiosity Where are you in the birth order?
Krypto-Knight
Level 6
May 22, 2018
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I'm the youngest of 3
interesting, I've never thought that my being a middle-child was connected to my romantic woes... 
@magritte64 I'm not saying that just noticing the conection between the two things
Because you don't have a dog.
Mooolah
Level 8
May 22, 2018
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But I do have a dog. Lol
I guess it starts with what do you think love is...
thinkwithme
Level 7
May 22, 2018
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Because by the age of 52 you probably haven't been truly loved by you? In my view, that's where it begins and so many of us are crippled in that ability so early in life that we don't even understand what a vital role it plays in attracting love from others.
Silver1wun
Level 7
May 22, 2018
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or in recognizing that love and accepting it...
You may very well be right. I've never thought much of myself.
@Turkeylips Maybe that's because you're missing a lot about yourself in being focused on others. We're all conditioned that thoughtfulness about others is noble and focusing on self is 'selfish' and undesirable. To be seen by others as self-absorbed is often little more than them expressing frustration over their own selfishness, unrelated to their roles in tending to self but of your failure to subordinate to their self-serving interests. Then who really is selfish?
Doing for and serving others is very noble and worthy of reward. After doing such things don't forget to shamelessly reward your own nobility of purpose and thank yourself for being such a great guy. It edifies both of you. Pat yourself on the back. Go find a mirror and smile. He'll appreciate the recognition; especially because its the only acknowledgement your likely to get. Not everyone sees.
@Silver1wun well put...I had the same thought along with my post, but couldn’t put it in!
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