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Sooo....I joined POF to meet guys. Looking for a LTR. I'm nerdy but only get hit on by men who seem to be my polar opposite.
I started talking with a nice guy. He is a little bit "good ole boy network" ...nothing wrong with that. After I realized just how opposite we are, it seems he doesn't get that point. No matter how much I display aversion to some things he ...does or talks about. Like farts. ...we haven't met yet, but he thinks his non stop fart jokes are hilarious. It's getting old.
I also STUPIDLY let him friend me on facebook. MISTAKE. I cannot post a fucking thing without him loving or liking it. ...which gets old quick. Like fractions of seconds after I post he comments or acknowledges in some way that he knows I'm on fb.
Well... I finally came right out and told him we aren't a match. But he is pushing full fucking force.
I'm too nice.
He is coming to meet today...I just don't know how to stop this. I'm not attracted anymore. He has different views on every subject important to me. He doesn't read....books! I'm so spineless.
He is 1000% sure that once i meet him...I will be swept away..
I am doubtimg that. I think I'm in for a sweltering afternoon of fart jokes...talk about BBQ....and how much I should love him.
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Holycowballs18 4 May 25
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So why are you going ??? you have free will to make decisions for yourself. sometimes your feelings matter more. and it isn't wrong to tell someone that fact.

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In my experience PoF is pretty terrible for nerds. There's a few of us on there, but are few and far between...literally. The closest I've found any real matches was a couple hundred miles away and nobody wants to deal with a long-distance relationship

Right. I dated a scientist from POF for a couple months but he travelled too much. But he was great....one of a kind. Brilliant. I just couldn't travel. The well has been dry since.

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I totally did. Now he's ignoring me. Whew! Close call there

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He's whack! Make sure you have some friends with you if he does show up!!

I called it off in a whimpy way. I told him i got my period. Lmbo.

@Holycowballs18 Oooo K I don't know what to say about that but it worked! 🙂

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Stalkers suck, cancel if it's not too late. It is hard and can even be dangerous to reject someone. He's not respecting your boundaries and expect it to get worse. Be firm and consistent in refusing to engage and remember you and your safety come first.

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I was going to say dress down and look as bad as possible but he may just see that as a turn on. Best thing is just be up front and cancel, unfriend him and learn a lesson from it.

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I don't understand how he can meet you if you aren't there--I would simply tell him again that you are not interested and ignore any subsequent attempts by him. You can unfriend him, but if that is too harsh for you to do then simply block him. I have had to do that with a few people that I met as well--block everything: Their phone numbers, Facebook accounts, email addresses, etc. You do NOT owe him any explanation. Sounds like he's obsessed with you, which is very unhealthy and potentially dangerous. Cut him loose asap is my advice.

Took the words right out of my mouth Teach!

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Say fuck off

You beat me to it ? Lol

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