I feel like real communication is a difficult accomplishment between male and female. I wonder if it is me. I always believed that I said exactly what I meant occasionally using sarcasm to make a point. Yet when interacting with a woman I get the feeling she is looking for a deeper meaning as to what I'm talking about. Am I making any sense now? I call it reading between the lines. Example: A few women I have chatted with agree to meet for coffee. They call it a 'date', I call it a meeting. A date has a different meaning and context. My intent is misunderstood. I just feel like giving up with this method.
if it's just about semantics i'm actually out of here, but...
if i agree to or even take the first step & invite a man (or anyone for that matter) to having a cuppa, it simply means that i am interested in getting to know more about that person. deep enough? too deep?
Unless a long established platonic friendship regardless of gender, "coffee" is a date from my POV.
A lot of men are not very great communicators due to having been raised to repress feelings & "squish" emotions, so those types have made a lot of women feel they've got to put a detective hat on. Be grateful anyone cares, bothers to try to figure out what you really meant.
Two things: First, exploring the establishment of a relationship with a women includes finding out what the other means by the terms he or she uses. Our connotations and denotations can be quite different. Second, there are always cynical and untrusting people who are constantly looking for hidden meanings, hoping to find something to attack. It is their means of establishing control.
If the way you are communicating isn’t working you may want to change your aproucch... I say with kindness that if it happens repeatedly it could be you? Perhaps hold off on the sarcasm for a bit? It really doesn’t matter if you think you are in the right, you only get to controll your own behavior... and not everyone is compatable. People don’t want to read between the lines, that’s the stuff misunderstandings are made of.
Calling it a meeting rather than a date seems disingenuous and a bit demeaning. You don't consider these women date worthy? Honestly I'd write you off as a self important egotist for that alone.
I often find that folks who say they're having trouble communicating with a certain group of people mean that they can't find anyone who agrees with their biases against that group.
I'd say some self reflection is called for.
AH, this will always happen. For example: If you agree to meet me in Real Life after meeting me on a dating site, whether for coffee or wine or just a walk in the park - it's a date. If, though, we never talked before on a dating site, and meet randomly in a coffee shop and strike up a conversation, that is a chance meeting that might turn into something else but is not technically a date.
It's definitely context - I agree with you. Good luck!