A woman at work keeps asking me to come to her church. I always politely decline. When she asks why, my response is "I just don't go to church." I've been hesitant to reveal that I'm an atheist, as I'm unsure how my co-workers would take it. It really bothers me that I have to be this subdued in order to protect myself!
I understand how you would feel frustration at not being 'allowed' to state your position out loud without repercussions, but they don't need to know your position. It is none of their business. Unlike them you don't have a need to 'convert'. Just keep declining the invitation and they will eventually either give up (do they ever give up though???) or come to their own conclusions. This is how I would handle it.
Yes I feel you there. I've been born and raised in the rural South where almost everyone goes to church or believes in some sort of religion. It's incredibly difficult to deal with people sometimes after they hear you're not a believer. Luckily St my office the new doctor that a joined us is also an atheist and it had made work way more enjoyable because I feel like we have each other's backs when we get Bible beaten. But we had to both expose our beliefs, or lack there of, in order to find that we had that in common. Sometimes taking the stand for yourself and just letting people know who you are paves a way for other closet atheist to join you in that freedom and right
It is hard to deal with especially if you feel it will effect your job. I am totally out to everyone so it is really hard to offer advice on what to do. I like the others say do what you feel you need to do. But I do think it would be perfectly fine to tell this lady then next time she asks that you appreciate the invitations but wish she would stop asking. After all it sounds like it is a little bit of harassment. Good luck.
As someone who often gets atheist=godless horror from believers I feel you. I am out when asked but don't lead with it. I would agree with those who say simply declining and moving on. If they persist simply add a firm no. Adding you are a non believer is only going to get them to try harder IMHO.
I know exactly how you feel, and I think there are others who've lived like someone antisocial for fear of bigotry or other adverse reactions from others.
In that situation, I'd feel having a conversation with the churchgoer might be difficult, and if it is a fundamentalist church, they might equate atheism with devil worship, which is bizarre. I don't want to lie to people, and don't want to expose myself to unnecessary criticism.
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