Do you as a women even want the guy to pay for dinner anymore?
Do you as a man expect to pay the tab for the date?
I believe the correct protocol is that whoever invites the other (mostly the guy) pays. If the woman wants to equalise costs them my preference is to pay for alternate dates. A less preferred alternative is that each pays for specific parts of the date; for example he pays the restaurant, she pays for the theatre.
I don't really date. But if a guy asks me out...he pays. I like to keep a first meeting something simple like coffee and a dessert or an ice cream shop. Since we meet on neutral ground I offer to pay for mine..if he pays I offer to cover the tip. When in a regular dating situation, relationship or semi relationship. We can take turns or one of us occasionally cook or cook together and share in buying ingredients or contribute to the meal in some way.
This might be old fashioned, but the Southerner in me compels me to make a valiant effort to pay for it. If, however, my date insists on going Dutch, then I of course agree. However, if I'm the one that asked for the date, I do try my best to pay for it.
But then again, I use that same rule if I invite ANYONE out to lunch, dinner, or to get a drink - whether it's friends, family, or a date.
BTW, I am NOT one of those who believes that paying for a date's dinner obligates them to me in ANY WAY WHATSOEVER. That is barbaric and misogynistic.