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Is Valentine's Day here yet?

I can't wait until it's over because I'm tired of being reminded every little second that I'm single and that I'll never find the one and have children with that special guy. It's exhausting and I really want to cry but can't. I feel like I'm never going to be good enough for anyone because I'm so freaking different. I'm awkward and I wish I am extroverted but I'm not. Rant over. Thanks for listening.

By taemaria27
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Celebrate yourself! Be thankful you are healthy(I'm guessing), and, well, alive! Relationships can be overrated, and if the "right person" is supposed to come along, he/she will. If not, well, you have you, yes? And you are the MOST IMPORTANT person at this moment. Do something for someone else, volunteer, do something YOU want to do! I'm dressing up, and going to a museum.......by myself. I also sent gifts to the grandkids, and bought candy for the associates at my favorite coffee place. A man/woman can never complete your life, as you are already a complete person; they can only compliment your life. So you do you, and stop feeling sorry for yourself! I've found out the more desperate you are, the more desperate you appear to others! There are worse things to be than single. I'll jump off my soap box now. smile009.gif

AzVixen52 Level 7 Feb 13, 2018
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LOL. Not exactly a "soap box". Thanks for sharing!

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Live your life. The right person will come along, and he will accept and cherish you the way you are. Do not make the mistake of getting in a relationship with someone just to be in a relationship. You will be fine.

noworry28 Level 7 Feb 12, 2018
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Don't listen to them, in time, everything will be fine. I think I'm in a similar issue. I try to keep fit, I try to be friendly and nice but almost every girl I meet that I am really interested in is in a relationship. Because of my work and school schedule, I hardly meet girls and the few I happen to meet are either married or has a boyfriend. It can be depressing at times.

Just this last Saturday, I met a girl in the club that I use to work with in the office. The first time she joined our office, I became completely in love with her personality and she was very beautiful too. I didn't want to hit on her then because we were working in the same office. we both switched jobs last year. So when I met her last Saturday, i was super excited, I approached her, offered her a drink and gave her my card to text me. On chatting with her yesterday, she told me that she has a boyfriend. We still had a friendly and interesting chat nevertheless.

It's not just this girl, every girl I'm super interested in is in relationship. But I know in time, I will find the one for me.

obis Level 5 Feb 12, 2018
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Any day that celebrates couples familys birth and the How we are meant to be in eyes of the church is all BS be who you are Celebrate your Uniqueness and individuality .. There can and only ever will Be One of You Celebrate that Fact.. Wake up and look at yourself in the Mirror valentines Morning Say to that Image you see before you .. I am unique I matter I am Beautiful .. I did not wake to a controlling bossy Partner whos real interest is in what he or she can get for him/herself . Make a mess if you want eat a huge meal of whatever it is that makes you Happy Celebrate you for Who You Are . Go out on Valentines day be your own Boss shout yourself something Nice just for You and be Proud of who you are .. Get on the Phone Thank your Parents for allowing yourself to be who you are ... relationships can be Hard work and they take alot of freedoms from self for the end reward of being close to someone sometimes is not worth the trouble wait and don't jump into a relationship because thats what society expects wait till mr Right or Mrs right comes along it might not happen tomorrow but It will happen Have Patience ...

prezidentofnz Level 4 Feb 12, 2018
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Hey if you need to rant and blow off steam you go ahead but don't make yourself believe that being different is a bad thing. I'm sure you don't really believe that. Someone once said, "negative thoughts are like weeds in the garden of our mind. ". Let them grow and you'll have a garden full of weeds. Just something to think about. Don't be so hard on yourself.

Hflores Level 4 Feb 12, 2018
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I'm sorry you are feeling so down @taemaria27 ... smile003.gif

I had this friend who used to take herself out on dates whenever she started feeling down -- go out to eat at an expensive restaurant, see a movie, etc. For myself, I like to treat myself on those days when I feel like shit about myself and being single (yes, it happens from time to time) -- usually shop for something that's not necessary but makes me happy and/or feel pretty (I can get lost and lose my rent money in Marshall's, TJ Maxx, Bed Bath & Beyond, and Ulta if I'm not careful LOL!). If the weather is pretty I'll go do something outside -- hiking along the river or lake, etc. Engage in activities that make me feel wonderful, regardless if I'm doing them with someone else or alone.

I've learned to embrace my introverted nature and the related melancholy moments ... they help me enjoy the other moments when I'm happy and content, whether alone or with someone else.

hugs

evestrat Level 8 Feb 12, 2018
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I do not celebrate Valentine. Read why in:

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norealgod Level 5 Feb 12, 2018
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Love neither starts nor ends with one person. Love doesn't doesn't have to limited to romantic love alone. Your awkwardness is a part of you, but doesn't mean you have nothing of value to offer the world

Chin up. Relationships aren't easy for everyone. Keep positioning yourself to succeed. Whether you're with that special guy or not, there are people who will see the best in you

Rudy8 Level 2 Feb 12, 2018
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It's just in American that happens, and only after the holiday card and chocolate companies started promoting it.

Here, on Valentine's Day, Thai students give their favorite teachers homemade Valentine's Day cards, often with chocolates and a single (silk) rose as well. They give small store-bought cards to each other, though at the schools, but it's mostly to cater to western customs, as they do with Christmas..grabbing certain fun elements from popular US holidays.

But in Thailand, nobody cares, or bothers you if you are single. In fact, for Thai working women, it's normal to be single, to prevent spouses from stealing their paycheck money for gambling purposes.

I've been single in Thailand since 2010 and the only time my marital status came up is when I've been talking about my kids and someone asks where their dad lives. Then I just say I'm divorced, and nobody comments afterward, or cares.

birdingnut Level 8 Feb 12, 2018
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You're only 27, and you're beautiful..
Don't be so hard on yourself...

Buddha Level 7 Feb 12, 2018
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You made me smile at "Rant over"! I'm am not a fan of Valentines Day either. Even if I was in a relationship I would make it clear to my woman that she is my sweetheart all year. February 14 is just another day to me.

Shelton Level 8 Feb 12, 2018
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Be advised that a sign of a man having romantic notions about a woman is that he will plan ahead for special days, thinking of ways to surprise his special someone, and make her happy. If he ignores her on those days, it's time to move on..he is only with her for (convenient) sex.

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I like the way you think! Every day is way better.

@birdingnut There is no doubt that anyone male of female wants to feel appreciated, Special days and surprises are all part of romance, St Valentine and February 14th doesn't mean a thing to me today or ever.

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I'm actually looking forward to it this year. My 72-year-old aunt has a date! First one she's
been on since before she married my uncle, she was 19 when they married. My uncle died
in 2011, and this man has been asking her out for over a year.
She called me to ask if I thought it was 'okay', and if it would hurt my feelings if she went out with someone? I told her she'd mourned long enough, and it wouldn't be remotely disrespectful to his memory, or anything else, if she went. I also told her, when she's ready,
she should throw him down and have her way with him. I'm excited for her. There's no reason why she shouldn't still have a love life, if she wants one. I'm not hating on Valentine's Day this year, and I hope she has a fantastic time!!!!

KKGator Level 8 Feb 12, 2018
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That's one of the sweetest stories I've heard in a while!! smile002.gif

@evestrat She's one of my most favorite people in the world. My uncle's passing was really hard on her. I'm just so pleased she's getting out with someone who is obviously truly interested in her. She deserves it!

@KKGator If she throws him down - make sure she has condoms with her!

@RavenCT We've already discussed safe sex. Much to her chagrin. It was pretty hilarious.

@KKGator Well that age group is at high risk. So good for you!

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