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How do you respond when people say they will pray for you?

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I try not to roll my eyes. Most of the time it is friends or associates trying to express that they hope I get through a hard time. So I swallow the eye roll. I know they mean well. But I think they also use it as a place holder to feel like they are doing something to help instead of going out of their way to think of something they could actually do to help. It is almost an automatic response. So I just ignore it.

Sro210 Level 2 Nov 4, 2017
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I take it in the spirit in which it is said which usually is to wish me well. If it is response to something they consider blasphemous then they might get a cutting reply.

OrmRich Level 3 Oct 20, 2017
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I thank them for the good wishes and intentions.


In a way, it’s kind of cute that they want to protect me by begging favors from their imaginary friend. Prayers don’t bother me. It’s about them feeling better about a situation or expressing empathy.

Galactica Level 4 Oct 17, 2017
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Depends on who is saying it, why they are saying it, the location, the audience, & many other factors.
Often asking questions which require thinking is the best response.

MichelangeloSir-Rhine Level 2 Sep 27, 2017
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Say thank you and move on. Most don't mean any harm by it and if they do, it's their time to waste.

Wild Level 1 Sep 30, 2017
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But if they do harm you and kill you - now, that's a real waste!

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I just Thank them and move on

Jerseymatty Level 3 Sep 25, 2017
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thank them, seems as you believe the non sense.

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I just say "Thank you, but you can just give me a hug instead."

LaneDavidson Level 3 Oct 4, 2017
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It is more about them than me. So if they say they pray for me I just politely say: "Thanks." If it makes them happy, or they feel it helps, let them do whatever. Now, if they ask me to go down on my knees and pray with them, that's a totally different story.

Gemanblonde1964 Level 2 Oct 2, 2017
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I say it is your time, I really do not care what you do.

tonia Level 4 Sep 27, 2017
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not care

always be at peace with the world, in harmony, in good vibration

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I just say thank you and change the subject

Dante714 Level 4 Sep 27, 2017
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Maybe is better to say thanks but no thanks.

If it happens often..I usually do reply with.."you do remember I'm an atheist, right? If it's a stranger I don't get into it...9 out of 10 times it goes right over their heads

Amen!

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Thank you. that would be my answer.

trinacria3 Level 2 Sep 25, 2017
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But why thank them for? I say, I don't care what you doing.

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I think them, because they’re doing something they truly believe people benefit me.

GypsySoul Level 2 Nov 1, 2017
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I usually observe that age old adage .. From my schooldays ' well, it's your own time youre wasting ' .

MarcIveson Level 5 Oct 24, 2017
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I say thanks, and move the conversation in another direction.

mcfrank Level 4 Oct 22, 2017
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Usually just say "thank you" because I know they mean well, and I don't want to get into a whole philosophical discussion. (It wouldn't be worth it with most of the ones offering to pray anyway).

Katrillian Level 3 Oct 20, 2017
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please don't waste your time on my behalf

Bidamash Level 3 Oct 19, 2017
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I have friends that genuinely believe and dedicate much of their life to help others. I also have acquaintances that use faith as a weapon. If a genuine friend says this I thank them for caring, otherwise I say pray for whatever you want, I'm going to sacrifice a goat, specifically I'm ordering chiva tacos at my favorite Mexican restaurant.

clarkatticus Level 4 Oct 12, 2017
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All positive thoughts are welcome.

comedyflyer Level 2 Oct 12, 2017
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I'd say it depends on their intentions. If I just had something tragic happen in my life and someone says that while meaning well, I thank them and let it go.

Jim314 Level 3 Oct 2, 2017
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After the initial cringe, I ask them if they would mind mowing my yard instead so I can see God's will be done in real time.....lol

leifjohnson71 Level 3 Sep 30, 2017
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Normally I just thank them. In my own personal experience it's rarely intended as something negative.

Forge360 Level 2 Sep 30, 2017
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It depends on context. It can be an expression of honest sympathy, but more often than not, the specific words "I'll pray for you" is the passive/aggressive Christian equivalent of "Fuck you". Ie; If I tell someone, "I'm going in for surgery tomorrow" and they say "I'll pray for you", I just say thanks. If they ask me if I believe in God, and I tell them I don't, that's the passive/aggressive Fuck you, to which I'll say something snappy.

BonelessGod Level 3 Sep 30, 2017
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LOL

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Depends on how well I know them, but usually it's a thanks but don't waste that on me.

AnnaGuareno Level 3 Sep 29, 2017
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just take the prayer in, it's good vibration

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My response to that most of the time is, thank you. I ignore the statement, "I will pray for you," I would rather just interpreted it, in my mind as I hope things get better for you. However, if they are saying after finding out I'm an atheist I will pray for you, I say, "Do what you will, nobody will stop you, but nobody is listening to you either."

paul1967 Level 7 Sep 27, 2017
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Please, just send money. (Sounds like the tactic the religious use!)

Penultimate Level 5 Sep 25, 2017
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