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Calling people?

Does anyone call and hope the person you are calling doesn’t pick up? Whenever I call I get an odd feeling and hope the person does not pick up

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Being an introvert all the time.

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All the time! Lol. But I hate leaving voicemails too! So I’m stuck in this awkward loop of wishing they wouldn’t pick up but also hoping their voice mailbox is full. 😂😂😂

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Texting can be documented and being documented
Voice calls really not so
It’s BIG advantage for me

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It does feel like an intrusion, I am so grateful for texting. It is a standing rule that you text me first to see if am available. Most of the time I am but sometimes I just don't want to talk. Of course I never say that. I just say I will get back to you I am occupied. That way they don't feel rejected by me ignoring their call.

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I do that all day long in my job. My mantra when I dial is please go to voice mail... I work in short term disability claims.

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The same as calling at a house and hoping they aren't in 😊

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I avoid phone calls at all costs.

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Sometimes. I'm guessing on those occasions you're calling out of duty?

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I have a weird dread about talking on the phone. I don't like answering when someone calls. It feels like such an intrusion. I hate small talk. I don't know where all that comes from. I feel a little silly admitting it. 😬

You're not alone!

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I hate phone communication more than any form.

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Phone calls are more rare these days, certainly among friends I find. Most people communicate by email or text to organize a get together or say hi.
So, if I'm calling someone, it's because I need to speak to them, in which case I definitely hope they pick up.

If it's work related, I can imagine there would be a variety of reasons not to want the call to go live.

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Yes I have called the whitehouse.. but all I get is The President is currently in Mara Lago...🙄📞🏌️♂️

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It really depends on the call. I'd usually rather talk than text, but there are some people I just don't want to talk to at all.

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Well, I wonder if we, as a society that's so into texting now, are losing the ability to have verbal conversations. They've always been a little difficult for me anyway, as I prefer to look at the person I'm talking to.

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Each and every time. Texting is awesome.

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NO. /old school here.

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I rarely call anyone outside of those I have to call from work. Not because I don't love people. I'm just selective about conversations. I will use the mic when I text longer thoughts, so I guess I'm fine with talking at the phone.

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I hate to judge or critize people my age with little children anxiety.

Hey there, Gipsy:
Was that a criticism, i.e. "little children anxiety"? Just checking, because you began by saying it's exactly what you don't like to do. Maybe that wasn't your intent, in which case I'm sorry for calling you out. If it was, however, I think it's fair to point out that everyone deals with their challenges, whether they mimic those of young, or old.

There is no downside to being supportive of one another. On the other hand, when you're not nice, you end up being the person no wants to call, in case they pick up.

@Athena You can call me out.... I grew up being very sensitive but able to manage monster in the closet, under the bed and in the backseat of the car. Coming from a generation that experienced everything from Nuclear Scare to now. I see too much "weak", too much "sensitive", in my house I was never reprimended by fighting with another kid, when "bullied" told by an uncle... come from behind, hit him with your metal lunchbox and do not be satisfied, remember is a bully and hit him again. He will never forget your sneak.... he did complained that I had the lunchbox full of rocks and his 2 inch gash will never grow hair but I was never bullied again. What I meant to say was My grandmother raised no victims, she raised Men that will handle their business. How far do you have to go is up to you. I don't get people "polling" here. I never asked a single individual in my life... "My wife wants a divorce, what I am going to do? I reckon my formation was cemented in the "lone wolf gunfighter" of the 50's cinema. I am against ownership of guns by civilians and my son owns shotgun and 9mm and my ex wife love to go target shooting (a fact I remember about her, always). My favorite phrase is "Fuck the nra". Don't do much phone. I never answer the phone. Those close to me if they really need to talk to me know the protocol, contact my sister, to let her know to tell me to read my texts. By her line of work, her phone is not allowed in her office in the building. So everything about me will be a delay. Only my 3 kids, my ex wife, former gf nearby, my buddies for 50 plus years and sisters will get a return call right away. Romantic interest is another matter handlex in a need to know basis. Hate not to be nice, but the reason this country is so Fucked Up is in the lack of a spine at the core of the individuals and guns do not give you a spine if you already did not had one in the first place. And then again you may think there is nothing wrong with this country and its population. I am a romantic, enjoy sadness as a vehicle for creativity but I am an island able to withstand a hurricane. I don't consult my anxieties.... I squash them like "Shane". Can not believe I said that but... I know is more than what you expected... Enough.... Being in the city for 6 weeks during 80's, I love your "handler" Athena.

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Yes, I have that hope in some cases. I guess mostly with calls I feel obligated to make.

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It depends. If I break down and actually call someone it's because the saying of a thing can't be done in text... and almost everything can be conveyed sufficiently via text/im.

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I like calling and don't worry if they answer or not. However, I detest texting when trying to have an actual conversation. Not because I'm old but because it rates right up there with "meet & greet". Blech!

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I'm one of those terrible people who are heartily glad that texting came along, for this very reason. These days I can chicken out of having to have a conversation over the phone and send a text instead — and if not happy, it certainly makes me feel relieved to do so.

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Every time! Hate phones!

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I have a more general version of this. If I have plans there is often a period where I hope the plans fall through.

Yes!

Me too! I often wonder why did I say that I would do it!?

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I've never experienced this, so i ask respectfully, what is the purpose of a call if the caller doesn't want anyone to answer? Is it that the person calling really doesn't want to interact, calling out of obligation? Or is the caller afraid of something else?

I'd appreciate understanding. Thanks.

just a thought and not speaking for OP but it has crossed my mind that people better with thinking about words they use before typing vs speaking prefer text.

Text is kinda fun when a person has a way of tweaking grey matter in a way they can't convey in spoken word but dammit. I hate text convos because I can require a lot of words before I get my point across & don't feel like writing a college essay each convo.

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