Sexual Compatibility - How better to phrase it?
Am I the only one who thinks that the profile question "Is sexual compatibility important to you?" is not asking the right question? I think that the only people to whom sexual compatibility is not important are people that are inexperienced in matters of long term love, or those who are either oblivious or uncaring about the damage that it causes when sexual incompatibility exists. I think that the real question is "Do you have a high, moderate or a low drive?" After all, if both people have the same drive, they will be much happier in the long run. I know that drives can be affected by emotional issues within the relationship, but that exception aside, what are your thoughts?
Addendum:
Relationships are complicated, no matter how you look at them. They are 2 or more people choosing to remain in communication with one another for some purpose. Add into that connection an agreement that the relationship is of a sexual or romantic nature and it gets more complicated. I know that building a happy, healthy relationship requires work, compromise and respect between its members. My question is targeted solely towards a better way of communicating sexual compatibility. When I wrote this question, I wasn't even thinking about compatibility of tastes, and I appreciate the broadening of the issue - because yes, same drive, different pleasures can also make a huge difference in how you relate sexually and the impact it has on a relationship.
That said, my question still remains the same, for those that agree with me that the question could be better phrased: What would be a better question? Obviously, once you start talking to someone and trust them, you will get more specific - but what is a good starter question, for those who choose to answer it?
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[] Coitus ( sub category ) [] any thing in the Kama Sutra goes. [] only missionary [] doggie style is a must
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So it needs some detail, just throwing a suggestion.
azzow2
Level 9
July 8, 2018
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Lol!
@SACatWalker You misinterpreted that check next to coitus then check subcategory
I like the suggestion below. Is sex and sexuality an important issue for you? Answers: Often, Sometimes or Never.
Barnie2years
Level 8
Aug 11, 2018
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That would be a more useful question.
One of the few things I liked about OK Cupid was the various questions that you could read (if people answered them, anyway) and see if a potential match was into similar things. Assuming they were honest, anyway. And the people who didn't answer any of them... I tended to avoid, because I'm not shy about those questions. Not after the first date anyway.
Hell, I met my first girlfriend at an Xmas party by asking, in a bored moment, "So.... you into leather?" By the end of the party we were necking on the sofa. So, yeah, not shy about those questions.
Paul4747
Level 8
July 24, 2018
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Its not about the drive it's about one or both individuals compromising on their attraction level to their partner for the sake of actually maintaining a relationship, if sex is an important part of there life you simply shouldn't compromise in that area too much or things get stale and resentful real quick, but obviously.that isn't true for everyone but it's an observation I've made of others and of my own experiences, there has to be a certain level of attraction maintained as well as emotional dependancy, with those two parts in place, the individuals libido likely won't be an issue, the issue is whether you should have gotten together in the first place, so it really nullifies the whole term of sexual compatibility if you both share a real attraction for each other and are being honest with yourself and not just in it to avoid being lonely
Eric_in_bham
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July 9, 2018
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