I don't know the exact definitions of each of these. But without looking them up, I would say Passive. I just live my life; not trying to make other people atheists; don't go looking for debates or arguments or rallies; as long as other people don't use their religion to hurt, discriminate, or coerce/guilt others then I'm fine with their beliefs
Active, as in I don't go lookin for trouble, I'm not invitin trouble in for coffee & conversation but if trouble does not carry itself away from me when I ask nicely, it will walk away with a quickness when I call it on its BS. I'm middle age, its hot, humid, I can't have my favorite summer adult beverages because of gluten & fon't get me started on the dearth of cuddlef*ck in my life right now...plus, I miss my dog.
I'm more tolerant of passively delusional people than I am of fanatics who make others pay for their delusions or cynics who ally themselves with fanatics for their own gain.
Religious fanatics have a penchant for outlandish drama that triggers instant, valid condemnation. The notorious Phelps family sing hymns that don't scan outside military funerals, while brandishing banners saying "God Hates Fags". Misfit jailbirds mow down pedestrians in trucks for nookie in the afterlife. Abortion doctors get blown to smithereens because Jesus, apparently, was a fetus-fetishist, and murdering the 'right' person, apparently is pro-life.
But there also are non-religious fanatics. Some are dramatic, such as the mass-murdering Maoists with their little red books full of impenetrable gibberish. But others go under the radar and are part of the mainstream. You have the money-worshipping neo-liberal bankers prepared to crash the world economy for a decent bonus. Or the "patriots" prepared to cheer on any war so they can feel great again (and maybe get a good deal on oil.)
The Bush advisor, Karl Rove, was a fanatical neo-con and an atheist. The "Hitch" - who had a fine intellect - was a cheerleader for the Iraq war.
We all are deluded in one way or another. When confronted with our delusions, we humans tend to put our hands on ears and go nananananana, Before I bought a house, my brother told me that prices were over-inflated and a crash was inevitable. He made a sequence of very valid points to justify his position. He might as well have been warning the head of Lehmann Brothers about liquidity problems. I wanted that house. So I chose to believe he was a party-pooping neg head.
I hope if I harbour delusions today, someone will tell me and I will listen.
I have more in common with liberal, secularist believers than I have with Karl Rove. Being 'wrong' on the God debate doesn't make someone bad, any more than being 'right' makes someone good. Nor does it necessarily make me globally smarter than another person.
Think about it. Everybody harbours some delusions. So sneering at non-threatening believers is likely hypocritical.
I'm a little of each depending on the situation. I volunteer at a free breakfast feeding the homeless and hungry sponsored by a Presbyterian church. When they pray I remain silent. So I'm passive.
I'm a devout atheist so I am sometimes evangelical and speak my truth.
I attend atheist meetings and Humanist meetings. I've written letters to the editor of newspapers correcting misunderstandings about atheism or showing the error of faith belief. So I'm activist.
I donate money to secular candidates and atheist organizations. Not so militant.
I prefer atheist activist. Militant atheism was actually invented by theists to attack us. I'm defiantly an assertive atheist, anti theist, not agnostic, anti theist, anti religion, with no buts about it, with values drawn from humanism and progressive politics, economics and social justice.
I never have pushed my atheist beliefs on anyone, including my daughter. Her father is an atheist, too.
We raised Claire to be kind, considerate, polite and respectful toward others. We taught her by example.
"I'm an atheist, too," Claire said at 22.
Most of my friends are Christian. They love me for who I am. They never hassle me about my lack of religion.
Depends on my mood and even more on who is around me.
When I'm with atheist friends, why would I be militant? What are we opposing?
When with my chill religious family or friends, still fairly chill.
The few times I've met asshole theists, I might respond in kind if there's utility....or fun
I say I'm passive w atheism. It's not my job to save souls so I don't try to change what people believe. The only time it really comes up in my life is if someone is pushy with their beliefs and I have to stand my ground. I must brag--no one has ever won the religion argument with me. ? I like to think my debating skills are so advanced they're legendary. No fool dare to cross that turf. So I can rest easy in my passiveness like a legend should..... ~this is what I tell myself anyway~