Perhaps it might be best not to assume anything and if you want to know something ASK.

I guess that I should go to a Democrat BBQ... I am single.

Single, fit Democrat men my age are as rare as a two-dollar bill. Here's my joke about middle-aged, single men in Wenatchee, WA:

"If I wanted a fat, out of shape, ignorant, good ol' boy, Republican, judgmental Christian, fisherman and hunter who loves his Harley, snowmobile and chainsaw and decorates with antlers, I'd be all SET."

It's disappointing..but he was clearly taken with you.

So perhaps he just wants to enjoy your company.

For all you know his marriage could be dead..and he might only be married in name for a myriad of reasons.

Sometimes a hike is just a hike.

His marriage did not slip his mind at all.

Maybe he has a non monogamous relationship? A lot of people do and that may not be for you, but that wouldn't make him a bad person. On the other hand he could be separated...on the other other hand he could be a liar and happily married and his wife has no idea. A lot of guys are dishonest ?

I'm 63 too. Sometimes I forget where I put my glasses.

Sounds dishonest to me. You don't need to accommodate dishonesty. No one does.

He’s a schmuck.

What's the saying "Trust but verify". Never take anything at face value. Also, I am sure there are lots of women who don't care and who pull the same trick. I know I once lived downstairs from the town playboy and there were lots of married women going in and out of his revolving door.

Maybe he’s separated or getting divorced, maybe what you say was inaccurate. Why would his mother try to introduce the two of you if he’s married? I would suggest more investigation.

I’m an almost divorced 55-year-old Democrat. I’m pretty physically fit, and I would love to stuggle through a hike with you. Unfortunately, I live very far away from you.

There could be an innocent motive. I will say that it sounds like he was deliberately hiding it from you although even that could still be innocent. I had an ex-boss who remained married because their son required extensive medical assistance so their combined health coverage was intact but he was legitimately separated and only married on paper.

He clearly hid it from you, but if it is innocent and a noble reason then he's probably not interested in leading with that. "Hi, I'm still married but would you like to go hiking?" is probably low on the "best pickup lines" article. If I was you I'd find out why he hid it from you before laying down judgment. The mother was clearly in on it and most wouldn't allow their sons to hit on friends of theirs in front of them.

Would you accept that there could be a good reason that he's still married? What if he is recently separated, would that be acceptable? If you could conceive of a reason that you'd accept, text him and find out why he hid it from you. I wouldn't put my money on there being a good reason, but I think it'd be better to know for sure.

Guys like that give the rest of us a bad name, as if we need more help. ☺

Very curious about "marriages" in name-only? I was never able "wait" it out for better times.. if it wasn't happening I left. I realize i was immature and insecure back then. Would be more financially stable today if We could have co-existed back then but i wanted lovers So I left. Am I sounding judgemental? Don't nean to be

He's out to add you to his list,break your Heart,then rip it from your chest and stomp on it,callous ,uncaring,a ladykiller,not to be trusted.

I am married. So is my wife. We both have had friends of both sexes for our whole lives.

The wife has a number of male friends who are artists, and scientists. As i do.

One of my closest friends is a women i met in '92. We regularly have lunches and conversations.

Did he in any way imply other than doing what he said?

Maybe it was you who was expecting what was not implied.

I may be being shitty here. But, as a man, i get tired of "hearing" about how we men are shits, no matter how we behave. Looks like i just was. Just can't win.

Ok, the guy is married!!! Nuf said. I do not wear a wedding ring, have not since I almost tore my finger off at work. If I am out and a woman approaches me one of the first things I do is talk about Kate, my wife. In no way would i want to even be considered to lead someone on. If i get hit on, which does happen, i say i am married to the love of my life. Kate is I'll, she cannot get out, really i guess i could cheat on her, but why would i do that. Terribly dishonest of me. Would you want to be with a person who was cheating, i would not. Life is to short to go through it dishonestly. I will not do it. Now i have stated that i would go hiking with you, i ment go hiking, you saved someone's life, i would be safe. I talk to many women on this site. I in no way mean to play games, I get along with women better than men, always been that way. I guess it is because of my childhood, which I will not get into here. I put forth an honest persona, I expect one back. Thoughts.

Sometimes it's to get laid. Occasionally, it's really because we see something legitimately alluring. Either way, be upfront about it.

I am sorry this happened to you as well...if he had said he was married to begin with, maybe you would have heard a different story...will you let this drop or will you confront him?

Sometimes there is more to the story... and sometimes married people are lonely and flirt in order to feel desired. Or maybe they have an "arrangement".

My wife and I have an "arrangement" but I am always very up front about it with a potential partner, since I know a lot of people aren't cool with that, I don't talk about it with many people otherwise as it is very looked down upon in rural-churchy-red areas like where I live.

I don't think you should pursue, but if the opportunity comes up to talk to him again,,,,call him out about it...always interesting to hear the whys.

Better luck next time. I remember dating someone married that eventually told me... "You did never asked me if I was married so I never told you." I always thought among grown ups will be a standard operating procedure to express your condition... we both been wrong.

No slip. Intentional. Hard to trust a guy and I'm a guy. If I lived near you, I would hike with you. We have had that conversation. Not married. Sorry this happened. Always leaves a negative butterfly effect.

Sigh.... that's unnerving.
I've run background checks on everyone I was interested in, save for one or two who were easy to sleuth. I'm sorry Kathleen.
At best he's an "overlapper", at worst he's....well...I feel sorry for his wife.