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My mom calls her mil mom. So does my aunt.

Its just the way my family is.

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When I was married I called her by her first name once and my husband laughed and laughed at me. I thought I got her name wrong! Apparently I was supposed to call her Mrs. So-and-so. Um, no - I was not comfortable with that so I just avoided addressing her in any way for 20 years lol.

I've never been married so I can't speak from experience, but here's how I think I'd respond in your stead: “I want to have a close relationship with your mother and I really do feel close to her, but ‘Mom’ is reserved for the woman who spent so many years providing for me and caring for me and bringing me up to be the man I am today. I mean no disrespect, but I'm just not comfortable calling anyone else ‘Mom.’”

Mama Toni. She died when our daughter was eight. That was a relief.

A narcissistic, critical and controlling women, we never let her babysit our daughter.

"You are not family," she told me. Cruel.

Ex

Dead now, but I only called her by her first name. She wanted to be “Mom,” but I never felt the emotional tie.

Nothing. I ignore her as I walk by her and Faux news is perpetually on.

2 legged snake? I was physically forced to give her a hug during "My Daughter Celebration of her Life". I always been True to my Feelings... No Sugarcoat! It is Personal!

Draw the Line in the Sand.

I called my first MIL Mom because she was like a mom to me.
My late husbands mom I never called her anything at all. She was not in my hubbys life for most of his life and they were not close . Just do what feels right to you .

It took me a long time to have a good relationship with my mother-in-law, years, but I just never could call her "mom". She had a lot of wonderful qualities, but she was not the warmest of women, and fairly judgemental. My father in law, on the other hand, I had a wonderful relationship, and started calling him "Dad" almost right away. Sadly, after having been married to her son for 37 years, she became my EX-mother-in-law, and we have NO relationship now. I hope for you that you can develop a good relationship with your m-i-l, and perhaps come up with a special pet name for her!!

It’s about your comfort not hers.
She’s not your mom.
Call her whatever you want.
My ex MIL has a family nickname I called her that
Would never call her mom
But that’s up to you

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It’s ok to call more than one person mom, but it’s up to you to do what feels right to you. If it’s not genuine, you shouldn’t be pressured to call her that. If there is some other nickname that you both feel comfortable with, maybe ther is a compromise to be made, but first names should be fine.

I won’t say how I referred to my former MIL ?.

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Bipolar. Nah she's actually manic-depressive.

I called her by her first name because that's what she asked me to do

Ex-mother in law

I always knew when my mother in law was visiting. The mice used to throw themselves on the traps.

In the south, we usually address our elders as Mr. or Ms.com/Mrs. So-and-so (first name), and the same applies to in-laws in my case. It's said to be out of respect. However, I do call his aunts and uncles Aunt/Uncle so-and-so.

Deceased.

Don't forget people are dying in Canada to fight the C16 law.

I don't have one (and don't want one!), but I had a cousin who didn't get along with the mom-in-law. The nicest thing he came up with was either "malicious old dragon" or "adipose harridan who broke every broomstick she tried to ride." Why do I have the sneaking suspicion that they didn't get along?