LINK 41% of men surveyed experienced sadness or irritability after sex
A first-of-its-kind study found men also exhibited a condition called “post-coital dysphoria” (PCD) that has previously been observed in women.
Forty-one percent of the male participants experienced PCD in their lifetime and 20% reported it happened to them in the preceding four weeks.
Feelings reported by the survey’s subjects varied from "I don't want to be touched and want to be left alone" to "I feel unsatisfied, annoyed and very fidgety. Some talked about feeling “emotionless and empty”
The results of the study show that how men view sex is much more complex and varied than assumed previously.
This condition can interfere with the interactions of the couple following sex. The study's author stressed that the postcoital stage—“the resolution”—is very important for building the intimacy of the couple. Those that “engage in talking, kissing, and cuddling following sexual activity report greater sexual and relationship satisfaction.
Scientists theorize it may have to do with the “dopamine rebound effect” when dopamine levels are lower after the sexual rush.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I don't fit that description at all. For me, the act is just as important as the afterglow. I was under the impression most females enjoyed post sex attention so taught myself to do just that. Why engage in sex if you aren't committed to the other enjoying it as much as possible?
Deanervin
Level 6
Aug 18, 2018
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Well if only more men felt that way....lol...but good for you. And I'm not being sarcastic...
@Freespirit64 hasn't got me what I wanted though. Still single and looking but nothing...
I certainly tried my best to engage in post coital snuggling, conversation, afterplay, etc. My last wife jumped up after sex to head for the bathroom, and turned her back to me and shrugged off any contact when she got to bed. It was not a good feeling! And certainly avoided seconds!
Barnie2years
Level 8
Dec 3, 2018
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UUNJ:
Going to the bathroom after can help prevent urinary tract infections and is also a way to cleanup fluids and lube. So that’s common. But jumping up without a word and ignoring you after returning to bed says something about what’s was going on with her emotionally and/or physically. Speculating here, of course, but in similar situations my clients have reported that even if they had orgasms, they felt disconnected from their partners. Sometimes it’s mid-matched sexual styles/interests, sometimes its sexual pain or anger.
To me, sex is more mental than physical. I love to cuddle to sleep after sex. Never felt any such sadness bullshit however.
Insane_God
Level 5
Dec 5, 2018
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I sometimes experience great sadness after orgasm (even with a partner). This has nothing to do with how bonded I feel with my partner.
When sex is good (and it often is), I feel more alive than I can imagine feeling at normal times. Full, like a brand-new car with a full tank of gas. It's like I can feel every tendril of my nervous system like a glowing tree inside my body. Strong, like steel, the surface tension stretching my skin. And I see colors, deep rich colors like amber turning into red, then purple, then glowing white-hot as if the colors themselves are on fire.
And just so, just when I am able to palpably feel what it is to be divine-then it is gone. It is a time of extreme vulnerability for me, and often sadness rushes in to fill the void, and brings me to tears.
And this, THIS, is what I have always needed my lovers to understand-that joy and sorrow, anger and love are mixed together forever in an intractable knot in my heart. Some have, some haven't.
Deveno
Level 7
Dec 11, 2018
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I suppose in some instances it depends on who he had sex with.
PeterMetcalfe1
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Jan 27, 2019
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