she is broken nothing you can do. Either you move near him or him near you see if its real.

I stopped at “demanded to read our private conversations”. Eject this stupid bitch from you lives.

Honestly, I'd delete and block the lot of them. Make newer and better friends.

Sounds like he’s the one putting you between them. I’d strongly question the motives and emotional stability of anyone who would put the onus of their relationship decisions on a 3rd party.

First, if he is the good friend you portray, ask him directly if his feelings for you are stronger than his feelings for her. If he says no, then go back to your female friend, and tell her that you value her friendship a great deal, but (1) she needs to get her head straight, and (2) you are not going to end your friendship with the guy simply to soothe her ungrounded fears.

You can't lose what you never had. Your buddy has a choice. You can wait for him to do that, or make your own move. Sometimes, you just gotta book. Good luck, hon.

I can't see a positive reason to respond to either of them. There's over 350 million people in America, find another friend, this is drama you can't win.

Let's be clear first. Are your intentions to be intimate with this man or just friends? In my view that is the first question to fully clarify.

What is the meaning of emotionally intense?

It is my view that if he likes her a great deal then the flirting should cease or he should make the move on pursuing you. If you were my partner I would not be a huge fan of flirting or sexually driven discussions of intimacy. I am impressed that she could feel that you have deep feelings for him. Very keen she is. It appears to me that a decision needs to be made. Hope everything works out to the benefit of all.

Danger Will Robinson, Danger!

If they've only been dating two weeks, this seems like a red flag that he should not ignore.

I can see both sides.

One could argue that she is only being jealous and insecure, and should not try to control who her boyfriend's friends are.

On the other hand, a lot of people consider emotional fidelity to be almost as important as physical faithfulness. I am not sure I would like the idea of my girlfriend having such a strong emotional attachment to a male friend. Especially if there is flirting involved, as you say.

A rule I have tried to live by for most of my adult life is to always treat my friends of the opposite sex exactly how I would treat my friends of the same sex. In other words, no flirting and no touching.

Sounds to me like you are his "emotional support" person when he needs you, and
he's really good at using people for whatever he needs.

Based solely on what you described, I'd be cutting this guy loose with a quickness.

I'd rather be alone than allow anyone to use me for anything.

I don't want to knock you back but she's mostly right. It's far too early in the relationship for her to make demands, but you are clearly involved with him at a level that can encroach upon a romantic relationship. Distance denying physical contact is a big deal breaker in many relationships, but emotional support transcends distance. He may be actually using her for sex and you for everything else.

As far as you're concerned you're not doing anything wrong, but I feel for you in terms of losing friends. Regardless of how this turns out I've lost my fair share, it's not easy and finding new friends at least for me if nigh impossible. I try to fill my time with hobbies that are productive in some way. I don't need people for the gym or off-roading, and sometimes you meet cool people along the way.

Relationships take on many forms and it is clear to see that intellectually you and him are a perfect match. Now because of distance the phys