Interesting thread. I had a flame do this exact same thing. I always felt pigeon holed. There’s some great dialogue here.

Maybe he didn't miss you, but lacked the courage to say so. That's a communication problem related to honesty, not necessarily a lack of ability to express his feelings. Also, maybe you should show him the door and lock it behind him. But to make a good assessment, I'd need to hear his perspective too. In any event, good luck. Relationships are hard.

Is it all about men who can't express their feelings? Or does it have more to do with women having no romantic interest in men who actually can and do express their feelings?

I firmly believe that actions do speak louder than words and his actions would suggest that he's not all in. Your profile states you're open to meeting men, so you're not all in either.

So, are you frightened of losing what you do have? If he rocks up, says something nice and you end up in the sack, where's the motivation, for either of you, to make this any different?

Have you broken it off? Does he know/think you've broken it off? Has it been broken off before and then started up again?

I would have thought that the very fact you've made this post would suggest you, at the very least, have some unfinished emotional and possibly physical business.

There's lot of details missing to really know the whole deal but essentially if you put a bunch of ingredients together and they make a cake then if you put all those ingredients together again, in the same way, you'll end up with the same cake. If you really want something different then change the ingredients.

Maybe what you have is safe, maybe it's what you want, maybe this whole dynamic is exactly what makes it work (the way it does) Only you know for sure.

To answer some of your questions, I explained more in my post.