I've seen a lot of posts about people not being attractive to the people they are attracted to and vice versa.
So what is your "type" and what is the "type" you tend to attract?
I like redheads from Kentucky
more to the point: I can't honestly say what it is that makes a woman attractive to me. it's some magical mix of personality, looks, smarts, mannerisms, her smile or laugh, the way she cries and on and on... perhaps there's no type for me, lol...very discouraging.
I literally couldn't declare a "type" if I wanted to: I'm just not built that way.
Tall, short, thick, thin, cowboy, gamer, preppy, hippy, redneck... None of that factors into what I appreciate about a person.
I have to get to know someone pretty well before I know if they're my "type."
I think I attract all "types", but I'm really not sure. I've rarely been approached.
On the physical side, my conscious answer would be a woman who's shorter than me (I'm 6'1" so not much of a thing) like 5'2" to 6' but generally the shorter the more I'll notice. I have a thing for pale skin. And last, and I'm curious if anyone else notices this or feels this way, the sound of a woman's voice. I can't even really quantify it, some voices I find distracting and some I find mesmerizing. That said, I've been attracted to many women who meet none of these criteria. Which leads to another point. I've been very attracted to a woman and as I've gotten to know her it just evaporates. And the opposite is true, I've been around a woman who I wasn't particularly attracted to and as I got to know her it changed drastically. As far as the type I attract I have no fucking idea. I put the "o" in oblivious on this point. Almost every woman I've been with they've, in some fashion, clearly communicated that they were interested in me. It's not that I don't put myself out there, I'm pretty confident, I have (most) of my shit together but I don't seem to ask the right women. I've said this in other threads but I'm grateful for the fact that there's no accounting for taste. I recently had a flattering shock when a lovely young woman (to young, twentysix) that I've known for a couple of years flat out said to me that she was curious what it would be like to be with me. If I believed in god I'd thank him for creating women who behave intentionally.
I'll add I love a nerdy girl. Glasses, and tattoos are a plus. I have two tickets to see the Suicide Girls: Blackheart Burlesque next month. I'm still looking for someone to go with
I don't have a type.
I've dated all.
I don't care if she is white, black, Asian, Hispanic, Latina, Indian, etc. Hell, I would date an Inuit. Makes no difference to me.
Sizewise doesn't matter if she's big, skinny, short or tall.
My only catch is intelligence.
If she can't hold a conversation, that's a problem.
I don't expect genius levels of intelligence. I just expect her to hold her own and be willing to learn new stuff.
Soooo... I guess you could say that my "type" is smart.
I am a bit shy and also very careful about not making a woman feel uncomfortable, so women I have been with have approached me. I could say the type of woman I am attracted to is one that is attracted to me? My preference is generally long hair, I have found sex is best with women 5-8 to 5-10, yet the very best is only 5-2.
At 6tft2 I would have said shorter than me but have one friend who ticks all the boxes, never married, no kids, wealthy, healthy libido and extremely healthy (turns out we are both on a medical research data base of people who don't get sick). but totally nuts, one hell of a stalker and is 6ft 6.
The type of women I attract, single mums, usually with violent ex partners and troubled children. of course I don't know about this at the beginning, but the pattern is so strong. A couple of weekends a month there will be a bunch of kids here, all get on great, stay in close contact common interests. The one thing in common is I have dated their mums at some point which really makes for weird conversations. I tend to lose the women but somehow end up with their kids.
Hmmm. Well, my "type" tends to show it in his eyes. They're intelligent, mischievous, paying attention, ready to laugh, respectful, thinking. And not narcissistic, which these days seems to be more and more rare for Group 6. Physical looks aren't what get me in the long run. I can moon over Colin Firth and Sam Heughen all I like, but that doesn't get me anywhere in real life.
When I was first divorced I stated I would date ANY male After a few dates I realized good hygiene would be nice...then I realized it would be nice it they had an income... healthy would really help.... My standards now also include intelligent, compassionate and have a sense of humor. While I have been willing to date any physical type there definitely has been very specific male types that are or not attracted to me. I am 5', normal weight, blonde...have a good middle class income....own my own home. I have never been approached by a tall fellow, a large fellow, a wealthy fellow and very few outside my ethnicity...even though I have been part of their social circles.
My type is intelligent and open minded. Far and away the most attractive traits. After that is a kind heart and warped sense of humor. Physically, I prefer a rounder figure with some padding but not obese. Soft natural features and not afraid to show her age.
I have gone out with almost every ethnic group, body type, hair type (bald, short, long, blonde, red and brunette women). Height range from 4'11"' to 5'10" being the tallest. So I don't have a physical type. I think I just have to enjoy their company. I said in another post, laughter first, communication second. And someone responded how do I have laughter without communication. I generally meet people in non-one-on-one environments, so I can find them delightful without yet having any meaningful communication.
Interesting post and comments! I don't specifically lean towards fit and lean men. I like the average looking gentleman. A few pounds will not turn me off. I tend to think that witty, analytical, brainy men, are sexy; especially if they enjoy good banter. Although I tend to attract intelligent men, they tend to lack the ability to hold my interest if they are not science minded. To me a good date should end with a telescope aimed at the nearest star or planet or a breathtaking sunset that takes both our breaths away. If a man can talk to me about the three types of rocks and even identify a few and then discuss why global warming is impacting the shores of the Pacific coast, then he might be able to hold my interest.