@SACatWalker There's always an option #3.

@resserts there isn't a third option here. The whole point of it was to not have a third option. The point was to pick one of two crappy situations and then to figure out why you would choose that particular one.

@SonderOpia My tongue-in-cheek point is that you're never limited to those two options. Neither would be tolerable to me. It's a false choice that a lot of people buy into. There's always another option.

@resserts wrong. On this question there isn't another option. In reality there are multiple options but on this question on this page on this site there are two.

@SonderOpia Regardless, my answer stands.

@resserts I do not accept your answer. Because your answer isn't one of the two answers. Therefore your answer is irrelevant. And you suck for not wanting to participate yet feeling the need to participate by giving me your two cents worth. Now you know what you can do with your two cents worth. And have a lovely day.

@SonderOpia Your annoyance is adorable.

@resserts LOL

I can agree with you easily. Many I know think that I should now hate my ex wife because she left me. Sometimes people grow apart. The only reason they want me to "hate her" is that she is from Kenya, so now I know my "racist friends." Life gets more marvelous as you go along and learn more things.

@Dida Exactly! More passion than compassion

@SACatWalker What can I say other than I have always been one to colour outside the lines.

I did limit the options on purpose. I wanted to see if people would answer honestly if at all. Both choices suck but both choices have happened to me personally. Of course both relationships failed miserably. However I did learn what is the easier of the two to live with.

OK then.

The one with the nicest tits.

The question is a non starter - there is no win-win situation here, only lose-lose. So in such circumstances I would pick the one I loved and pick up my skirts and move on. Single, and immerse myself in my hobbies to compensate.

And a further thought - for either partner, if they don't take the hint that the other isn't interested and leave the other alone, in the UK at least, that is classed as stalking and is a criminal offence.

I'll stay single in those circumstances thanks.

I didn't take the easy option. I was very clear, if the choice was one or the other I would choose to be the one with the unrequited love and move on - that is a situation I can control and not leave someone else being hurt.

@SACatWalker So?

@Hicks66 so why say anything?

@SonderOpia Because the two options offered do not preclude a third. And neither option offered is favourable.

@Hicks66 that's the point. Two options, neither favorable and you have to choose one.

@SonderOpia no I don't.

@SACatWalker I know that is not part of the question or answer. There should have been a third choice because the two answers are insufficient. Neither one is a good choice.

@SACatWalker I am just giving an honest answer. I would not choose to be in either situations. I would just walk away from both.

@noworry28 you should have walked away from this question then.

@SonderOpia Sometimes there is more than two answers. I am just giving an alternative answer. Not everyone think the same, and only sees two ways of doing things.

@noworry28 but this question is about only getting to see two ways of doing things. This isn't a continuous thing. Maybe it's a start of a relationship and this is the Dilemma at that point in time. We all know there is other choices but at this point in this time on this site and this page at this question there is only two.

@SonderOpia Have you noticed that many people chose "Neither" to post as an answer. It is not a yes or no answer or one choice over the other. For many people neither choices is acceptable.

@SACatWalker it's like asking if I'd rather be run over by a coal train or a freight train. Either way I'm dead.

@farmboy2017 but what's funny is if you were to ask that question on here more people would answer it and pick one of those two answers then they are my damn question. Yes I know that both choices are crap however it was a thought question. FML

@noworry28 things are not black and white I realize this. I'm not an idiot. This was an and or of the two crappy situations which one. Yet no one seems to be willing to answer it and to give an explanation why. Does anybody think on here? Or does everybody just say I don't like it so I'm not going to answer but I'm definitely going to have to say something because what I have to say is way more important than the person that posted the question. FML.

I did not love the person I married. I know that sounds messed up but there are circumstances to it. However at first he was deeply in love with me then after about 3 years he started to resent me and I started to hate him.

@SonderOpia I have been trying to figure this one out for more than 30 years. I know I resent her, but I am willing to stay so we can "care" for each other. Hate is too strong a word. But I know the resentment causes me to "act out."

@phil21 in reality you have multiple choices. This question was just about two choices but you don't have just two choices. I hope you find a different Choice than the one you are choosing now.

Great and honest answer. Thank you.

@SonderOpia You are always welcome.

I disagree. To be loved is power and strength. To love is weakness and vulnerability. Your mileage may vary. Just my opinion

Okay then neither, both positions are cause for anguish.