My answer feels shallow but it’s honest. I spent over 20 years being married to someone who earned way less than he should. He wouldn’t ask for a raise nor would he do anything to improve our situation.

And yes, I did all those things. I don’t expect a man to take care of me financially but I also know the pressure of living paycheck to paycheck

I’m just saying for me to date a man he better have a lot of money ?

I would not enter a serious relationship with someone who doesn’t have a steady income. I m only able to support myself and maybe my daughter (for a short period of time). I can’t and don’t want to support anyone else.

you want brutal honesty? okay. i am not sure why you are excluding men when there are certainly men who date men, and considering that at any rate a man might have the same considerations about a woman. i am not sure why you consider being between jobs, often a euphemism for being unemployed, as having a steady paycheck. i am not sure why if it's just dating one needs to worry about such things at all; dating isn't marriage. furthermore, if a woman is attracted (your term) to a man with money, then she is attracted to the money. what's that got to do with the man?

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I believe it has more with being responsible than the weekly paycheck. If you are in a profession which is seasonal, a gig, freelance, etc but you plan for upcoming bills & even have an emergency fund set up that is one thing. If you are a a lazy bum, claim you are waiting for the next 'job' and just wanting to mooch off someone - I have zero time for you.
As others have said - I can more than support myself and have no plans to support anyone else (been there, done that and will not do it again).

I’ve had too many bad experiences with men without a steady paycheck constantly borrowing money to the point of hurting my credit rating. It’s been years and I’m still fucked.

I believe it would be petty and shallow to disgard a perfectly decent potential partner based on arbitrary salary requirements.

As long as he financially responsible has money, savings, another source of income or is retired, a steady paycheck is not important. I don't have a steady paycheck and I get by fine. Debt free. Have for years.

I can support myself on my income. But that's it. And somebody old enough that I would want to date them really should have their own income by then anyway.

Money isn't a factor for me. I'm used to paying when I want to do something.

I just need someone who will respect the fact that my job is very important to me.

As long as you can pay your own bills I really don't care. Clarification, paying them without resorting to illegal activities.

The flip side of that would be all those girls/women who have minimum wage jobs with no apparent hope for anything better. Should a guy date them?

I dated a guy once who was 'between jobs'. We dated for about four months, and during that time he didn't have any transportation either (he hit another vehicle while driving in the snow). He also would bring his laundry over every weekend to wash since he didn't have a washer and dryer at his place. I was basically his taxi. It didn't pan out, especially after he was able to get some new wheels (from his father), then I started hearing less from him. It turns out he was really only using me. I don't know if he ever found another job, but at least he's not doing his laundry anymore at my house.

Definitely not. I don't care if he doesn't buy me anything, but he should have a job. It helps if he's financially responsible.

I don't have a steady paycheck myself (being self employed) so I could hardly say anything about someone else. As long as they work & are self supporting I'm fine & their finances are their business.

Just saw this on Tinder and thought I’d share

I don't make a steady income, but I support myself without depending on others. I would have no problem dating someone who has mastered the same challenge. I've learned lots of ways to have fun without spending much money.

I don't want a man sponging off me, or expecting me to support him. It's a deal-breaker.

Hmm. Interesting. I think if I found the right man and he was pursuing a dream I might be okay with it. He would have to be a hell of a man tho! Hopefully it would work out in the long run.

No, I'm not queer