So many people I know who suffer from sadness turn to religion. I guess it is the defacto thing people suggest when life gets hard. What do Atheists and agnostics turn to? What do you turn to when life gets you down?
I try to use music, listening to it and going to sing at karaoke shows once or twice a week. One of the shows has a couple karaoke friends I can hang with. Singing helps me release emotions in a healthy way and gives me enjoyment. Excercise is also good. Spending time with friends is always good. I have one friend that likes to see movies about once a week. Went to hear free live music last night on my birthday. Was a great way to celebrate it.
It was religion on occasion. I came to realize that my fixation with religion was in fact, a by product of emotional difficulty and nothing more. Thankfully, I have dropped religion as a means of comfort. I have also dropped alcohol as a pain masker. One particular online forum has become important to me due to my specific life circumstances. It is called, 'Out of the Storm' and it is a place of advice and support for those experiencing symptoms of Cptsd or struggling with the legacy left behind by traumatic life experiences. Youtube videos on self compassion are useful. Fly fishing is useful. Sometimes I simply have to retreat from life for a few days or a few weeks until I turn a corner. During this time I watch documentaries on youtube, often of gritty material like serial killers and drug abuse. Somehow that gets me through. Definitely explore self compassion on youtube, it will lead you to very supportive thinking styles!!!!!!!!
I have certain go-to films I watch. The 1995 versions of Jane Austen's Persuasion (which is kind of about getting out of a depression) and Pride and Prejudice (which is about getting out of a rut and forgiveness). Also, doing anything creative helps me, whether it's practicing a musical instrument or doing a drawing. Ultimately though, as much as I want to cocoon, I need to reach out to other people, even if it's engaging in a simple conversation.
Holo, if that's where you are now I wish you all the best and know you're not alone.
I'm in a 12 step program so I have people I can talk things out with, as well as the program principles to help guide my choices so I don't make things worse and instead set a foundation for a better tomorrow.
I also thrive on Sunshine, so I get outside if I can and soak up rays. Hiking helps, as well as working on a project with clear visible results. Music, movies, reminding myself that feelings pass.
Lots and lots of positive strokes. You are here, you made it it. You are a success. Judge your life only on the good you do in the world, never against other human beings. Be kind to you. Really really kind. Eat well, exercise if you can, listen to things that make you giggle. Music and dance help. You are perfect just exactly as you are right now.