Coming from a black atheist, who numerous girls have either left me before a relationship could take place or during a relationship when I told them. It seems many black folk are ultra religious and any mention of nothing believing is just crazy.
I agree. I can’t really speak for other folks, but it certainly SEEMS like us black folks are more prickly about atheism than others. Guys I’ve dated are always pretty surprised at my nonbelief. Eve some of the biggest heathens around tend to look at you sideways.
As an aging asexual atheist in Alabama, you'll be fine. Don't be an asshat, bathe regularly, and practice empathy.
Also, if you're looking for someone to "complete you", you'll never be okay. A relationship is SHARING what you both have. Be cool with you WHILE you're looking. Invest in self-improvement so that you'll be an even better partner when the time comes.
My girl's 1st ever boyfriend was black. He was and is the sweetest kid. They're still friends.
That said one of the reasons they broke up is he is very religious and my girl wasn't raised that way, on top of her being open minded socially.
She's your age. If you are willing to step outside your race that would widen the field.
There are a couple of young black girls on this site. One issue here is it seems the under 30 set don't hang around much or long. I've tried to get my girl to consider joining but she has no interest.
Posting raises your visibility.
Atheists are a fast growing segment of society. Just look at all the churches for sale on real estate sites.
Best wishes to you
Depends on your location I guess. I have dated a lot of black women and none of them seemed to care much about my Agnosticism. I'm obviously not a black man though and there might be something with black women who exclusively date black men that are religious and require their men to be religious. I think I have only known 1 really religious black woman and it was when I was like 20 or so. I live in NY though. It could be a combination of things.
I have personally dated multiple black atheist men, and neither of those attributes are what caused me to stop dating them. If you're exclusively looking for a black girl, you're going to have a harder time finding a like minded soul (you are right about being a double minority there), but it's still not impossible. Good luck!
If you live in the states, the church was a very big deal to the black community for political protesting to garnering rights to gathering as a community. It was through the institution that so many black americans got their rights and connected with others. The sad after effect of the church being so heavily tied into the black and minority communities, is that black atheists become numerical minorities and isolated more. However, millenials are way more atheist these days. So give the AA community some time to catch up so to speak and shake the shackles of religion off of themselves.
I wish I could thank everyone that answered. Thank you for pouring down such optimism down my pessimistic throat lol. It really boosted my spirits reading this, I wasn’t expecting anyone to answer at all. Much love..and to the question asked numerously I’m willing to date anyone just my part of Miami us black people tend to be the majority.
It all stems from the relationship your having with yourself. If you keep finding yourself in the same old same old its because that’s what your attracted to. If you want a change in relationships then you have to change the relationship your having with yourself.