That was the only date. His comment was really surprising to me. I've been focusing on my education and career and also I don't want kids.

I do not agree with that line of thinking at all. I have however, also faced the same criticism. "You've never been married? What's wrong with you?" I think I'm going to start replying with "You've been divorced? What's wrong with you?"

When and old brain neighbor asked me why I married "so late" (39 y/o) I told her "" Because I didn't want to be a servant like you and you daughters.."" lol

BTW, I married a guy who was the perfect partner.

What's weird is when people think you should be some cookie-cutter copy of everyone else. It's scary that anyone would be so limited that it would never occur to him that you may not care what anyone else thinks.

I wouldn't give it a second thought.

I'm over 35, (male) (Midwest) never been married, no kids and yes, I have had people state "There must be something wrong with you if your' not married by 35."
Does this assertion have any Merritt?
Aside from identifying the myopically challenged character of the person making the assertion, Absolutely not.

He's living in 1950.
No kids isn't weird.
Smoking cigarettes now; that is weird.

I mean if you include being picky, then there is something "wrong" with all of us that are in our 30s while never married [and no kids]. I would be married this very second if I were willing to budge on the having kids thing, so when a girl sees me, she's right to think, "What's the catch? Why didn't anyone else scoop up this gorgeous, hilarious man who cooks like a chef and fucks like a rockstar?"

Nah, he’s just an ass, trying to rush you to bed.

I don't agree with that type of thinking, but I think that's the consensus among all the zombies. Of course people who are married or in a relationship will think that people who aren't have something wrong with them past a certain age. It's kind of like the people who become rich and say YOU TO can become rich! You just have to work harder for it! It's your fault! What they don't also consider is that maybe it's the person's choice to remain single, or maybe they haven't found something close to what they're looking for and don't want to settle for something that will end in flames anyway or be miserable with someone who doesn't "get them", or maybe they attract a certain type of person that is detrimental to their health and on and on and on. It's none of their business really.

She was on close to her 50's never married, no kids. Her boyfriend was her job. A pro dancer. I didn't judged her. We still friends and still annoy each other. She ain't weird or me a freak.

I've never been married or had kids. Some people think my life is over. I just find that attitude really sad.

Hmm, let's see...

People no longer have to get married. Equal rights, women's lib, and feminism mean that women can pursue education and careers, and do not need to be limited by traditional gender roles. Anyone--of any cultural inclination--who's had their head above sand can see that people are taking advantage of these opportunities, and societies have changed and continue to change. There is no shortage of people in the world at large: no one needs to breed. Women are having children later, or not at all. People are marrying later, or not at all, or not staying married.

Its a different world, like it or not. If you don't see that, you're too stupid for me. If you don't like women making choices that don't align with yours, you're too shitty for me.

In the old days they used the term spinster. This term had a lot of underlying meanings, like ugly, prude, man hater, and even harsher names like dyke. Everybody tried to get them married but stopped trying when they passed the golden age of 30. so by these standards you are hopeless. I have a friend who is now 83, never married and had a blast every day of her interesting life. Her laughter pierces walls. I don't think that marriage would have made her any happier. She has a busy love life, a busy cultural life, and many many friends.

Nothing wrong in living the way you elect to live.

I'd say he was definitely a bit weird. I know women in their 70s who never married, either because they never found anyone they wanted to marry or simply because they never wanted to be married. Some of them had kids, some of them didn't for a variety of reasons, including not wanting to. They're all well-rounded, intelligent people who have lived lives according to their own wonts and values, so fair play to every one of them and fuck what society says they should have done.

I can imagine that being a practical issue in the Deep South and in rural areas broadly.

I think people should marry when they are ready and mature enough. They are usually convinced they're both, well before they are.

Some people should never marry. I suspect I am one of them. It's just that I figured it out way too late in life.

Guess you just have higher standards than those from the Deep South. Lol.
Oh wait a minute! I'm from the Deep South!

I'm 30 and never getting married.

I think that you are probably just smarter than "the average bear"
Quote from the old yogi bear cartoons.. lol

I've never been told that, nor do I agree with it. I live in the Deep South though, and there are lots of weird things people think and say.
The father of a friend once told me that since I was an educated woman, I had an obligation to have children. I thought that was weird.

Yeah, I'd delete that guy's phone number right now. Dating many/most southern men are sort of like dating many foreigners..they are mostly totally patriarchal, and usually looking to upgrade socially, i.e. from broke trailer trash to an educated woman with an income.

I was married two weeks before I turned 20 yrs old, to an old MK (missionary kid) friend I'd known in Haiti since I was eight years old, and my brother's best friend. I only married him because we'd been pen pals for a few years, then dated in college, but only after I made him promise he'd never propose, since I couldn't say "no" to a pal (I didn't know at the time I'm partially transmale, with an active "bro" code), something I'd observed about myself, but didn't know why.

I didn't have my son until I was 27, and my daughter when I was 30.

Honestly? I don't think there's anything wrong with you, but parenthood is such a profoundly transformative experience, I can't quite relate to people who never go through it.

My gosh! Well I ever venture into the deep south of America, they are all going think I am super crazy! lol. I can just imagine it... I would have so much fun with them. mwahaha.
Anyway Ignore the silly man, and do what makes YOU happy

Marriage is overrated and our planet is overpopulated with humans. Your life belongs to you, not that conformist casting negative judgement on you. Fuck 'em.

Where did you find this moron? I hope you at least ate well; you earned it! (oh, and to hell with "people".) Smile! Spring is on its way. Hell, giggle.