A failed relationship is an opportunity to look at what worked, what didnt, the qualities of the previous person & the qualities you want in your next relationship

I like to think of relationships as math equations there is the constant(you), thevariablle(the other person) & the outcome. If the outcome is always the same, the issue is not with the variable. You can't make different, wiser choices without close evaluation.

None of my relationships failed.

They just changed and we decided it was time to move on. I still have good relationships with ex-partners, they are just different now.

Yes. I am divorced after 33 years of marriage. I'm just getting to the point of starting to date, but I have a lot of "I don't want"s when it comes to men, but I'm only starting to learn what I do want. Also, communication is a lot more important that most people give it credit for.

The thing to be learned is that all relationships have a beginning, middle and end. Don't look at it as a failure. It's an opportunity. The end of a relationship is a time for reflection - what worked, what didn't, and what should "I" do differently?

Always; and if you claim you haven't learned, or you weren't about 50% responsible for it not working, then you're destined to repeat the same mistakes.

There are lessons to be learned from everything.

My first relationship was a year and three months. She cheated on me while my mom was dying because I wasn't paying her enough attention. Yes, she ripped my heart out and I lost my mom, my house, all of my belongings, in a matter of months. But, having dated her, I later used the knowledge I gained. She'd been homeless when we were dating. Three years later, I became homeless. I needed that knowledge. Every relationship I've had has some kind of "lesson learned" similar story.

There sure is, every failure finetunes our senses to what we think were looking for. As for the second question....... I haven’t gotten out of the land of failed relationships.....these lessons are kicking my ass.

Yes. My second husband was a thousand times better than my first. learned what signes meant it wouldn't work out, and I don't keep dating guys who it won't work out with nearly so long because of that.

I've even improved my looking process. I've gotten incredibly better at spotting gay guys (I barked up just a few too many wrong trees, and had to learn to avoid mutual embarrassment).

There better be.

I am resisting learning anything from failed relationships. The lessons make me more cynical and skeptical, distrusting and so on.

Oh there's always something to be learned. Don't marry a jackass is top of my list now.

There are always lessons to learn from a bad/failed relationship. It's being wise enough to realize those lessons by not falling into the same patterns and routines over and over again.

God I hope so.

Only if you're paying attention, and choose to learn the lesson offered.

Recently divorced after 20+ years of marriage. I’ve definitely learned what I do and don’t want in a man. I’ve learned I need to speak up if something is bothering me or I’m unhappy. Countless other lessons. So my answer is yes!