"I understand your feelings," Nick said. "I understand."
"What did you just hear me say?" I asked, checking for comprehension.
"I vowed if I ever hear the same words from a woman that my ex-wife and ex-girlfriend said, I'm walking out," Nick replied. He did.
In the shitshow that is modern dating, you never know what triggers someone. My relationship with Nick lasted three weeks. The problems were sex and communication.
Even with hearing aids, Nick misses a lot of conversation. "What did she say?" he asked continually, sitting beside me at Cascade Unitarian Fellowship.
"As if 'what did you hear me say' is a terrible thing to ask," my friend Nancy laughed.
I like your list below. Netting things out in a list are handy with pro's and cons. After a while you will see the trends early on and cut your losses--business speak. It's hard to let go of the sunken costs--all the time and emotional energy you've put into a relationship.
The hearing issues are extremely frustrating for me. I never know when my wife has her hearing aids are in. The hear aids help but are not perfect. She often doesn't hear everything I've said or it gets misinterpreted. And then the TV is so loud.
Sounds like you dodged a bullet. Glad you only had three weeks invested into it.
I've given up on trying to have relationships. To have a decent relationship there has to be give and take. I seem to only cross paths with the takers.
I wish for you better dates post-Nick.
Rather than it being 'modern dating' could you be stuck in a bad pattern? As I try to rebuild my life I've made some very poor choices in who I give my time and attention. I've had to take a step back and figure out how to change my behavior and am slowly getting better. Hope I've helped. Peace.
Yup, modern day dating is,indeed, a shitshow. I just got dumped before we even met in person because I confessed that if the woman I met last spring hadn't gotten sick and is now on her deathbed we would still be together. Too much truthiness. I think I'll stop looking.
Yikes...I just read the 5 deal breakers you listed below. I would have walked out on him way before the "What did you hear me say?" incident. You have way more patience than I do. He sounds like a horrible boyfriend, to say the least. You are better off. It's a jungle out there!