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Guilt Trips

How do you handle the disappointed looks and guilt trips that people give you when you say (or they find out) you're a non believer?

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I'll let you know if I ever experience that guilt

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I treat those look and guilt trips with pity as they are still lost in their self delusion.

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Why should that be your problem? Celebrate the fact that you are living by reason. Not much you can do about their reactions.

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They are most likely in Shock! A good slap to the face will snap them out of it!

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I guess I'm just weird because this has never been a problem for me.

The closest I ever came was that my older brother, who is still a fundamentalist, asked me point blank if I didn't believe in god anymore. I said no. He said that's too bad. And never brought it up again and did not treat me differently. He's an unusual fundamentalist -- belongs to a fairly diverse inner-city church for example which is rare in fundamentalism which is normally suburban,rural and very white. He's also a slum lord -- er, Section 8 landlord -- and deals with gritty reality of poor people's lives and so is far more "street" and not as naive and bubble-ized as most fundies. I would say that the way we were raised (unconditional love from our parents) means we were protected from the most unsavory qualities of fundamentalism.

Beyond that, I deconverted well into adulthood, and never lived in the Bible Belt.

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In the vernacular ...I couldnt give a monkeys !

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Just so some of you know, this rarely happens to me. I don't feel guilty because I believe guilt is a waste of energy. I just posed the question!

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Not my problem.

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I have had lots of practice at ignoring guilt trips. My mother used to resort to guilt shoves off the cliff. I called her out and told her to stop wasting effort.

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I don't take guilt trips. The tickets are too expensive!

I see what you did there..πŸ˜‰

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What exactly do you feel guilty about? I'm not sure I understand. Is it that you are disappointing believers? If so, I guess I can relate because I eventually had to tell my kids there was no Santa Claus. They got over it though.

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I ignore them, assuming I see them at all. Mostly I'm too busy giving them pitying looks for being brainwashed.

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I have nothing to feel guilty about. It's their disappointment not mine. It does not bother me.

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Doesn’t bother me.

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I never notice them.

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I generally cut those people out of my life. Judge me by my character, not some arbitrary label of my beliefs.

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I wonder how they handle my disappointed and bewildered look when they tell me they believe in a god as I follow up with which one and why...

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A chuckle usually works for me. If that doesn't do it I'll go to full on belly laugh.

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Honestly, I shrug it off unless they get belligerent about it, then I usually rant until they back off

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I remind them that in our country people are allowed to believe or not believe anything they want. Say for instance you wanna have an imaginary friend in the sky who you think controls your life rather than taking responsibility for the choices and actions you have chosen. Well then do you boo but stop telling me I have to do the same. πŸ’

Our country has a severely lack of empathy problem, because so many expect you to live by their own personal standards like somehow you magically had their experiences.

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I don't allow them to put a guilt trip on me. The standard thing that I hear is something like "everyone knows there is a god." Why is it that everyone knows that? It's because the buybull told me so.

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Me guilty? If so, of what? On second thoughts, yes, I am guilty of having a brain and using it.

Them guilty? If they refuse to use their brains, then I guess they could be said to be guilty of that.

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Live your life for youself, not for their approval. Don't let their lack of vision and understanding get to you.

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Guilt trips don’t work on me. I know enough about the Bible what’s in it and how it came about I can’t rip it apart. And will if someone pull that shit with me.

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I generally don't notice unless they comment. Responses vary with what they say, and may include profanity if they're rude, or a simple application of logic if they are not.

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