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I struggle to find my place on earth, my purpose for being. I’ve struggled with this since I was very young. What have any of you done to help yourself find answers to these questions? Help!!!

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I don't believe in any god. I do believe that all this god talk is nothing more than a personification of the universe. Thus, god is everything and everything is god. blah blah blah.

The biggest problem we as humans have is understanding things because of our limitations regarding linear time. I consider this our barrier to get over. How? Evolve past beings who live in 3D and perceive in 2. The next dimensional barrier will allow us to shift between time frames and live in any one of them once we overcome it. We will also perceive things in 3D thus we see the whole at once (tesseract) vice a 2D representation with cues for the 3rd. This will allow us to actually perceive our end purpose or goal - albeit admittedly when such a perception is no longer necessary.

So I consider it our goal to strive towards that evolution. IF we are to ever be the creatures that meet it we must get past all these petty problems that impede current progress. The base of these is insecurity and fear over differences - which is cured by education and homogenization. Thus I spend MY life trying to promote those. In me, the people around me, my progeny, while also NOT contributing to a barrier to these things. We have eons of development and advancement to go. All we can do is be like ants and extend a bridge with our lives for all the others.


No purpose required. Enjoy your arms length. Make your space better, and if you can, make other people's space a little better. Life is simple, they just tell you it's complicated.

I love this. Well said.


I have always been a loner. In my early teens I woudl just go, "away". Into nature, no other people, no manmade noises, and just be "me". Consider my relationship to the real/natural as opposed to manmade/artificial world. I still do that often. There is a place for me in the natural world, there really isn't in the man made world.

Rugglesby Level 8 Mar 13, 2018

I had a kid. Since the moment he was born, my mission's been clear: keep child alive. Honestly, there are days he's the only reason I get up.


Personally, I've found that accomplishment provides a degree of meaning. Creativity, such as writing, making things, and do on, does the trick.


I have found great meaning in my life by rescuing stray cats; neutering them, and trying to find them good homes. I also volunteer at an animal shelter. I have grown to really love animals; they never let you down. Unconditional love.

Meecat Level 2 Mar 14, 2018

Wonderful. Great job.


I stopped trying to fit in a long time ago. Either accept me and my out landish ideas as I am or at least give me a good debate or move on.

azzow2 Level 9 Mar 13, 2018

I don't know that this helps, but it sort of works for me. Try to think of life as having no inherent purpose.

Your life only has the meaning you ascribe to it. If it makes you happy to contribute, your life's meaning could be curing cancer. If it makes you happy to enjoy your time on the couch, that was your purpose. To enjoy your life.

Some people will get this one. Buddha liked to use an example of a glass goblet for perspective. If you have a favorite glass goblet, you should always view it as "broken." If that goblet ever breaks, you won't be disappointed because you had no expectations that this would not happen. It was meant to be broken. It's fulfilled. That's the way it's supposed to be.

Phyphrus Level 5 Mar 14, 2018

Seize the day. The rest is immaterial.


For me, the "meaning of life" has always been to find meaning. Finding that thing that makes your life worth living, and then living for it. The meaning that I have found personally has been raising and supporting my kids. Once they are grown and don't need me any more I'll have to find another meaning. Which will be my meaning until I do find another meaning.

Not sure if that made sense ? but apparently it had a lot of meaning ?

MadFawks Level 5 Mar 14, 2018

A well rounded education in arts, humanities, and science is hard to beat.

uuberdude Level 7 Mar 13, 2018

I accept the "place" I am at/in at any given moment and it is good enough for me.

jlynn37 Level 8 Mar 13, 2018

I have never suffered from any kind of existential angst.
I'm here. That's good enough for me. Whatever my purpose may
be can change from day to day.
I think tomorrow's purpose will definitely be consuming as much coffee as I can within the first hour I'm awake. Then, I might do some laundry.
Keep it simple. Don't over complicate what doesn't need to be complicated at all.
Just be.

KKGator Level 9 Mar 13, 2018

When we were hunter gatherer we had to watch for animals that would eat us. We looked everywhere to make sure it was safe. Some scientists believe that is why women have a hard time concentrating during sex. The male(stupid and unaware) is focused the female is looking around hoping to not be attracted in a vulnerable moment. We see faces in the dark turn on the light to find a garment of some kind because we are programmed to find it. We search for patterns because it makes us feel good to explain it. Religion helps us do that! We want an explanation we search for and we’ll except anything to make us feel better about our lives and it’s meaning. We are! And that should be enough but it’s not. Your place is where you want it to be. No one can make you happy. No one can find your place in this world. Only you can make you happy, sad, mad, or content. You are the decider of your world.


My purpose is simply comedic relief


If you do the things you love to do, you’ll develop talents and you might see voids in the world that you can fill beautifully with your talents and passion in that area. If you are living out of your true self, there is likely a need and appreciation for your exact talents, if you keep your eyes open for that niche and not settle or get distracted with becoming someone you don’t want to be.

Julie808 Level 7 Mar 14, 2018

I glibbly use this little one liner when I see this question: Always do what you love and you'll always love what you do. To look at this a mite more in depth, what it breaks down to is close to the Ikigai that silvereyes mentioned -- only with a slight twist. Here it is. I have done a lot of things that most people would say I couldn't possibly like and on a superficial level they would be right. And that is the twist to Ikigai.

I determined long ago that whatever I did I would do better than or at least as good as anyone else. If that happened to be digging a ditch for a footing, something I have done a lot of, it would be the straightest, most uniform, closest to the required slope of any ditch ever dug. Now, why? Why approach tasks like that? Simply because I could look with pride on what I had done and that translated to satisfaction and that allowed me to take away enjoyment from the effort.

So, what am I saying that relates to your question about finding purpose? It is that everything I have done or prepared to do was my purpose. Everything I do, whether it is work or getting along with people or eating a good din din becomes my purpose. Through this attitude of doing what I love and loving what I do, I have never suffered a purpose deficit.


There's no "higher purpose." Do you love your children because they might have a "higher purpose" or do you just love them for who they are? We are here to enjoy our lives. Or not. It's mostly up to us.


I wish I had an answer for you, but I am still struggling with this myself. I torment myself over it to no avail. I'd love to be one of those people who have a clear purpose in life.


I imagine there are as many asnswers to this as there are people. It comes down to identity. What kind of person do you see yourself as? What defines you? A good job? A stress free or less stressful life? Serving others? Not all of us came out of childhood having had the best role models and mentors, so we wander still looking for our "purpose" as you say. I had only one desire as a young boy and that was to play the guitar. Music has been the major focus of every year after turning 11 and starting guitar lessons. I thought music was my "calling" and that I would make a significant impact on the world through it. At 62, I now find that was not the case and feel a nagging suspicion that I have merely been distracted by music from some other thing that was my real purpose. It is not at all where I expected to find myself. All I can tell you is...keep asking questions, keep your mind open to possibilities, be around people who have a sense of purpose. It is a process and as I am finding, can chnage before your eyes. I guess I haven't really answered your question, but you can certainly rest in knowing you are not alone in your dilemma.

Seeker55 Level 8 Mar 25, 2018

I have struggled with this too. I read a lot of philosophy to help me with this. Included in that was observations with how human beings need a purpose which is why we invent religion. As a scientist I can think about needing purpose in terms of genetic survival. Probably the genes of people feeling a purpose have been favored. Life is hard and those feeling purpose are probably better at fighting for it. In reality there is no purpose and I have ultimately chosen to come to terms with that truth and live my life the way I want.


Your question implies you were "put here for a reason." This is not the case. You simply exist and you must define your own purpose, if you even want one. How about starting with your basic rights to Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness? So just find your happiness. =]

IAMGROOT Level 7 Mar 14, 2018

I like the saying " The meaning of life is to find your gifts, the purpose of life is to share them."

Jameson Level 7 Mar 14, 2018

It is my personal belief that everyone is on this planet for one major reason, although there are many other reasons this reason is paramount. TO LEARN, You got it, to me Life is one big gigantic classroom, You can learn things the easy way, or you can learn things the hard way, The way of the learning has always been your choice but you have to and will always be learning while you are here on this planet. We all learn in this life through experiences that we have, and mistakes that we make, but all in all that is the common denominator in all things. But you must remember this is my belief. Just thought I would try to answer your question.


My purpose for being is unconditional love. It begins when you feel it for yourself. That begins with self-talk. Eliminate "I can't", "I'm not" and "I'm not good at" from your vocabulary, replace them with the positive, and you'll be on your way.


Do you really need a purpose? If you live like there is no tomorrow wouldn't living life to the fullest be your purpose? That's why it's so important to work at a job that you enjoy rather than what makes you the most money. Have fun while you're here.

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