I’m glad he’s coming clean but he should have apologized to the generation of young evangelicals he helped leave in sexual ruins. Read “Pure: Inside the Evangelical Movement that Shamed a Genderatio if Women and How I Broke Free.” The author addresses the audacity of Harris’ work. [amazon.com]
Honestly this is very encouraging to me. I like the way this man is handling things. It sounds like he's not trying to hide his disillusionment for the sake of his mistakes being very public. He made the very natural mistake of thinking he knew it all as a youth and others made the natural mistake of lapping up advice because it reflected what they wanted to hear rather than wisdom won by experience. The best thing that could happen now is this guy humbly acknowledging his mistakes. I wish the best for him. Hopefully he'll learn to use that charisma for better things.
I'm kinda in the same situation as that guy was... too young to know Jack s hit, but I'll try to be less willing to open my mouth about it than he was. All i can say is, I'm less stupid then I was at 20, also 18 years seems to be a pretty good run, and there was no horrible scandal involved (that we know of) and that's a good thjng.
How could any 21 year old write a book giving advice on how to build a lasting lifelong relationship....leaving aside any issue of being celibate or not, when they had barely reached adulthood. To have been taken seriously by so many, speaks more to good promotion by the Christian evangelical movement than to any actual practical knowledge of the subject and expertise. Am I surprised at the news that this couple have parted ...no! It would be really nice if he would now be humble enough to call a press conference to say that it was all bullshit, care to take a bet on that happening?
So when I was teaching high school, "abstinence" meant everything was permissible BUT vaginal intercourse. I would explain that sex is any activity that includes the sexual parts of the body, including heavy petting, anything oral or anal, and that even masturbation is having sex, you're just having sex with yourself. Teenagers vocally and fervently denied that this was true...delusional already!
I always felt that this allegiance to abstinence with its primary focus on keeping the female hymen intact, just further objectified and demeaned females. From what I heard, the males really gained a lot of pleasure from this belief system, but not so much the girls. Again from what I gained from the grape vine, sexual activity revolved primarily around girls giving the boys hand jobs and blow jobs, and oh the sex games I heard about! I could have done without that gossip.
Sex is but one part of a relationship and being sexually compatible does not mean a relationship will succeed. My most satisfying sexual partner did not result in a long-term relationship as there was also a drug and alcohol issue. So, it doesn't surprise me that his marriage is over. He and his wife had a 50/50 chance just like we all do.
I view the goings on of Fundy Christians, even the celeb ones, with sort of a detached take like an anthropologist of watching a primitive tribe. What a strange bunch they are. I really don't care enough to want to make sense of what they do in their private lives.....