I think you dodged a bullet with that one.
I've tried being involved with believers, it has NEVER worked.
When they start in with their bullshit (which they invariably do), I can't keep quiet about it.
Especially when they start attacking my non-belief, and telling me all
about myself and my character flaws because I am "without Jesus".
Yeah, they can fuck right off with that shit.

I'm not perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but at least I am firmly
rooted in reality, and don't believe in things that have NEVER existed.

Better to cut the ties now than get in deeper with such a bigoted, irrational man. Your anger was justifiable.

Don't overthink it, he's the asshole in the whole scenario. Lucky you that the relationship never materialized.

You are better off and did 100% the right thing! You cannot control someone else's small mind!

I'd tell him that you would much rather have a child who learns to think for themselves rather than being told what to believe.

I have seen it many times. Religious people divorce their nonreligious spouses. It happened to me when I left the Moron (Mormon) church. My wife took the children and disappeared. Later, I got the divorce papers. But I am happy that my integrity is intact, and I did the right thing, even if my wife's reaction was totally wrong.

Good job . . . tell them like it is . . . . it will save you a lot of trouble down the road. Just because there are assholes in the world does not mean you have to put up with them.

I don't know you, but the scenario you described is classic passive aggressive on both of your parts.

Him expressing his religious beliefs is about him. Just as your non-belief is about you. But what you did when you, " I didn't say anything because I knew his faith and wasn't going to let religion get in the way.", but then, "I go home and I text him asking if he remembered that I wasn't religious. He never replied back so I asked him what his deal was."... is you did two things.

First, you did not immediately check or question his controlling behavior by addressing the statement. That statement was indirectly about you conforming to his viewpoint, but you were passive in the moment, although it obviously upset you, so the intent of his statement was not uncovered. But I would bet you had an idea.

Second, you never let it go, then got aggressive and basically attacked the man for not responding. Thats quite audacious considering you did not respond to his indirect manuever until also indirectly responding yourself. You also assumed (correctly) that he was upset and there was not simply a misunderstanding.

That leads me to conclude that there was always at least some tension over this topic that was never stated or resolved until this point. All of these areas could have been ironed out up front with frank and honest conversations about intentions and deal breakers. But the passive aggressive thing to do is to not address sensitive issues in the hopes of not upsetting the other person while continuing to benefit or attach. Which usually leads to things ending uglier than necessary.

Case in point.

Moral? Upfront and open conversations about intentions and deal breakers is always greater than trying to tip-toe around the pussy willows. Especially when dealing with people who do not want to discuss these things and instead communicate indirectly by weird methods like speaking through gods.

Hope this helps! Good luck!

Be glad you dodged that bullet.

Your reaction seems legit, but he will probably use that outburst as confirmation that he was correct all along.

At least you figured out early-ish that his religious beliefs were going to be an issue for him.

Yeah, as if church goers are all automatically good people. Like the rest of the population, some are, some aren't. You dodged a bullet by finding out sooner rather than later. You could've wasted a lot more time and emotion chasing down that trail.

Nothing necessarily wrong with someone just because they are religious. Always 100% something wrong with someone that tries to tell you that god brought you together. Instant red flag! lol

Just get over it and move on.Dating religious people is scary. They go all out being judgmental. Bad!

Firstly, you did exactly the right thing by calling him out. I dont know precisely what happened to turn him. Either he expected some kind of divine light to fall on you after his statement about god bringing you two together or his church cronies went to work on him. Possibly a combination of both. The thing about these hypocrites is that they talk the talk but dont walk the walk. "Thou shalt not bear false witness". "Do not attempt to remove the straw from your neighbors eye.." "Let he who is without sin". Seem to hold no meaning to the bigotry of tribal religions.

So lets address the "He believes God brought us together". Obviously he was wrong and missed God here. Wonder what else he could be missing "God" on.

Sounds like a lucky escape. How do you feel about dating someone who is religious now? Try again and give that idea more chances or you’re done trying to date religious folk and think it’ll never work.

You were not wrong but you can't really change religious people.

Sounds like you were right to be upset. I suppose it can work with some couples, but it is tough even when mixed religions. The “my god is better than your god” always pops up.

That xian bastard is threatening children AND YOU with hell forever....you did nothing wrong to give children neighborly attention but was wrong to make nice with a nazi xian....don't date any more of them unless they are ultra liberal like Quakers for world peace.....he is a liar only wanted to fuck you

I went through the same thing with a religious woman ten years ago. I wish I'd told her the things you told him.

I hope you don't mourn this relationship too much. You should be glad you aren't with the arrogant prick.

Wow!!! Great judgement from his side. How come many religious people mistake the need of having values and the need of having a religion /believe in God? I think people many times don't know how to diferenciate these two things...

Religion is made up of equal parts of love and hate, either of which can manifest itself at any given moment.

Too scary for me.

You learn a lot from talking to another religion .. but do not let it stick - use it to rebuff.

You're a lucky woman! You have lucky don't carry on a relationship with this animal, there are many religious and unbelievers men who respect anothers people faith or unfaith.

One of the best parts of no longer believing in God is being able to lose my shit at people every now and again and not feel like I'm going to be eternally damned for it. Feels good sometimes. Well done.