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Can a guy have a female best friend and sex never enter the frame?

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Gozer 4 Mar 27
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I have several long term platonic relationships with women. One of them had a spark of mutual attraction that quickly faded.

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Never say never. I learned that from my own experience with having close female friends.

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Yes. Of course.

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A woman friend of mine started out as a physical relationship. We both quickly realized it was too soon and too much and we backed off. Now we have a great friendship after over 20 years. For me sex is special and I reserve it for just one appropriate person and it doesn't enter my mind with other women.

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i have always had close male friends. 4 of them I did not sleep with. One or two that I did.

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Some of the best friends I have had have been male..My best friend now is a younger neighbor . We talked about friendship vs intimate relationships in the beginning of our friendship. I told him I had rather have him as a friend forever than a boyfriend for a while. We have the best times and he has his girlfriend..(who hates me..lol) It works for us and has for many years. But I had a close male friend for many years when I was young.. then one time he leaned over in the car while we were talking and I said..what are you going.. He was gong to kiss me.. It really did ruin our friendship.. I think it is hard for men to not think about sex with most woman..but if you can have a true friendship with a woman. You are special. That is my opinion!

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Who likes sex anyway?

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The closest friends I've ever had were male. I had to think about that for a minute. And we had so much fun together and sex never entered into it. In fact, my girlfriends would complain about how so and so had sex with them and then never called them or whatever...while I was running all around with said boy...lol
After reading everyone's posts...it occurs to me I know many men who can't even be bothered trying a "friendship" unless the woman is attractive which to my mind means "suitable for sex". I've been dismissed like that so I know how it feels....

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Yes I have many female friends

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I have a guy friend, we aren't best friends though. We've never talked about sex, we talk about video games and life.

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Well, friendship is one thing, being a best friend is something else. I have several female friends without the benefit of sex. I don't consider any of them my best friend. YMMV

Why do you think that SEX is a benefit ? As a woman I would be offended if a man would consider my submission and love a BENEFIT!

Give me the benefit of the doubt here. My wording wasn't clear. A better way to say it "without the presence of sex" is what I meant, though I understand your inference. And I agree with your point. Apologies for any offense.

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Depends entirely on the guy. Some can. Many can't.

I have a tendency to grow crushes on most people I get really close to, regardless of their sex.

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As long as no one physically attracted to one another. Friendliness will be miss interpreted as flirting.

So true!! especially for woman.. but I am friendly and if the guy misinterprets it as flirting.. that is his problem!

Well side

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Offcourse I have female friends but there is no existence of sexual relations among us.

FAIZ Level 5 Mar 28, 2018
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Yup

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Of course it’s possible. I have men friends and have often thought about having sex with them. I would not want to destroy the friendship that I have and I wouldn’t want the friendship to escalate into a boyfriend girlfriend type situation because, I like Them as friends.

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Most definitely!!!

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I expect this will depend partly on whether there is any physical attraction involved. If you are physically attracted to them then it will be difficult. If you are not physically attracted to them (or if they are not attracted to you) then it should be far easier. If the guy was gay and / or the female BF was a lesbian then this would probably be a non-issue. I expect being asexual would be likewise.

It would also depend on whether there are other people involved. If either you and / or they are with someone else then this will make it easier, as you can mentally put them in the 'unavailable' category. If on the other hand you get on great, and there is a mutual physical attraction - and both of you are single, then this would be pretty difficult, since the obvious question swirling around your head would be 'why not get together?'

Nomad Level 6 Mar 28, 2018
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I tend to get along with women more than men. Some I've had relationships with, but not all--or even most--by any means.

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Yup. I had a movie buddy - when we were both single.

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Though one. I think it's possible, I've often have female friends who are married so there's that default boundary.

ravi Level 2 Mar 28, 2018

Sounds fun .. wish I had one ...

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If there's a man who can do it, I haven't met him. Some can't even work with women without trying to make it sexual.

Men are predators . Even when married they need the occasional affair ....that's why I am single now .. no more deceit .. it's sad to be alone, but I rather live with myself without the heartaches and the emotional slap in the face.

@gemini31 😟 I think I'm going to adopt this as my new personal rule-- stay alone.

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Yes

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I have had this relationship with a guy it worked for us as i was his best mate and he was spoken for - so you know where the boundaries are.

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Piece of piss when you're an ugly fuck like me.

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