It is said that America is suffering an epidemic of infallibility and I agree, but I don’t think the problem applies only to Americans.
I think this is a human issue.
People have a hard time admitting when they’re wrong, as if doing so is a weakness, and it has resulted in division and fractured trust.
Some people will admit they’re wrong only to keep their image in good standing, like narcissists.
Others will actually take responsibility for their wrongs and do what they can to make right, but they seem to be in the minority.
What do you think is at the core of this epidemic?
Is it simply the fear of feeling embarrassed or ashamed?
When you’ve been handed evidence showing you’re wrong, or are caught in a lie, do you dig your heels into your indefensible position,or do you concede and take the necessary steps to think and do better?
I know that personally, when I admit I was wrong or mistaken, I do my best to be conscious and consistent in righting the wrong behavior so as not to make amends again, but also because trust and integrity mean a lot to me.
I’m quicker to trust a person who can admit they’re fallible, take full reaponsibility for their actions and take steps change.
Do you appreciate humility too?
Lawsuit society, legal entanglements, even #MeToo have made everyone paranoid of admitting fault.
Add in a strong subtext that being wrong is a failure, especially in the workplace, and it's no longer a matter of making an "honest mistake".
Yes Amy. I admit when I'm wrong. I don't have a need to be right all the time. For instance I reposted an atheist/agnostic chart on another post. Two members didn't like it. I'm ok with that.
ok being disagreed with
I have no problem admitting when I'm wrong like that one time I got married.
I made that mistake twice... Sometimes I'm a slow learner
The infallibility epidemic is an extension of their religion. When people consider their religion to be divine and infallible, they think their own actions and beliefs are infallible by extension. American exceptualism and individual exceptualism are both often born from religious exceptualism. There's no evidence to support any of it, but that doesn't seem to be a hindrance for any of them.
I agree with you that this is a human condition. I also think that not wanting to admit being wrong has had much more devastating consequences when someone knows they're wrong and lets things move forward anyway, regardless of the result.
When I am wrong, I always try to own it and make corrections/make it right if it's possible to do so. I have definitely made my share of mistakes.
I own up to my many mistakes all the time, and have a ton of respect for people who do the same.
Me too
I do appreciate humility, yes. As for myself, it has been so long since I have been caught in a lie that I can't tell you what it was about. I try very hard to always speak truthfully. Admitting that I have done something wrong or done someONE wrong is also rare for the same reason.
Being incorrect or mistaken about something happens more frequently. I will often defend my position until someone can demonstrate or logically explain why I am off base or gives me a vital piece of information I was missing. However, at that point there is no sense in debating any longer, I chalk it up as a learning experience, and will normally express gratitude about being corrected.
This does not mean that I am not stubborn at times, but if I'm wrong, I am wrong and generally will accept it. I do not like being wrong. Rather than fighting it against all reason, it's better to accept and embrace it so as to not continue being in the wrong.
Difficult questions without easy answers. It’s easy to admit you’re wrong about small things, but the bigger issues are a different animal. Studies have shown that giving people evidence that they are wrong just makes them more steadfast in their resolve.
It’s hard to gauge, but the internet and social media have had to have some impact on this phenomenon, right? It’s never been easier to find people who harbor your exact same beliefs, no matter how misguided. And it’s never been easier to get misguided beliefs out into the world to find their chorus.
I do appreciate when a person can admit they erred. When my error is pointed out I own up. Course I can justify with the best of 'em . I do try and not do that.
People are afraid of appearing foolish and sometimes cover that will too much bravado.
It's very easy for me to admit that I am wrong. I love talking about myself and if admitting that I am wrong about something affords me the opportunity, I'll take it!
Seriously, I struggle with bipolar disorder and one sure tale tell sign that I'm manic is that my behavior becomes more anti-social. One of the many destructive ways in which this condition manifests is delusions of grandeur which blinds you to your faults, and sometimes makes it impossible to perceive reality in the same manner as those not afflicted with a mental disorder. There is a total lack of awareness that slowly creeps in, and before you know it, people are looking and reacting differently to you and you don't understand why. Before you know it you have become infallible, inflexible and intolerable!
I just can't wait for the next episode.
Maybe it's because there could be a few handfuls of people who could take your place. If I'm wrong at my job, there is a list of people who could do it "better." If I'm wrong in my relationship, there are a ton of dating sites making it easy to meet the next "one". As I saw someone mention, right and wrong shouldn't equate to good and bad, but we make it that way. Until we accept that our faults make us who we are, and that we are still worthy, we will only continue to assert our "rightness".
Since my teens and until my forties I was "never wrong"....One day a friend who knew me from childhood told me why I acted in such stupid way. She said: "You -like most in our generation- were taught how to do everything the right way by being told that you were always wrong." She was correct and until that day I was a person who had great difficulty accepting when I was wrong.
Absolutely. Being wrong is normal and so is changing your mind. I've done it countless times in last two years. Heck, I wouldn't have renounced my religion if it weren't for feeling like I was completely wrong. I also used to think Stalin wasn't so bad in middle school (I changed this view). I also examine things myself and make judgement without peer pressure. If something is stupid but everyone seems to be doing it, I don't care and I don't give in because of that. I also try my best to be as rational as possible so as to not make irrational decisions that are based too much on emotion/feelings.
Yes to all the above. I totally agree with all you wrote. I stay away from doing wrong things only because I do not want to cause any hardship to anybody. Or myself...