@2muchstupidity /Suzanne

First may I recommmend you get rid of the "2muchstupidity name....self-degrading.

#2. I don't think any person intentionally "strings several love interests along at the same time without them knowing" ....what has happened to me is I developed an interest, then another one happens along....then another.

If you say to them that "you're pursuing someone else" then they quit and stop communicating... So in my opinion/strategy - I avoid being excessively "honest" and don't "confess" that you're involved in others. It's not "stringing" anyone along. It's being naturally friendly and reserving your privacy.

Don't get sick. It's life. Pursue others yourself. Play a similar game.

Or...if you're not happy - or "feeling sick" with being "involved" in more than one at a time...

Politely but honestly confront him/her and let them know you're monogamous...and that you won't be involved in anyone who's "pursuing others" at the same time.

Then you don't feel sick...you develop your own confidence through your own standards and honesty.

(S)he might respect that.

You know what they say. They say you need someone that will understand you. Someone that will make you laugh. Someone that will help you out around the house. Someone who will be a good sexual partner. You only have to make sure all those people don't know each other.

I have dated more than one woman at a time, but only first and second dates while looking for a partner. Once I get to the point of having a true love interest, I say goodbye to the other.

In my 20s, I had two male lovers. I wasn't stringing them along. They both knew about each other.

Unfortunately, they both wanted more of my time and pressured me. I was in graduate school and working full time. I didn't have time for a relationship.

I realized having two lovers was crazy-making for all involved. So, I chose one.

After that, I focused on one man at a time.

No … but they didn’t know that..

I would not string several love interests along at the same time without them knowing. That sounds like a very selfish, stressful, and complicated thing to do; and as you have made clear, is extremely unfair to the people you do it to. I'm sorry you had that experience.

That's why we use condoms!

This issue came up here a couple years ago. Can't help wondering if it's not the same Casanova. Modus operandi sure sounds familiar.

Nope! Honor, honesty or nothing. Learned that the hard way with a similar "accidental" learning of the other women. Angry to learn someone like that is or was on this site!

I can't imagine being involved with more than one woman at a time. I've done the dating thing, where I drive and I buy, but if it becomes physical you're supposed to settle on one. At least that's the way it used to be.

No, I wouldn't, and I can understand you feeling betrayed. It's quite a breach of confidence.

Absolutely not. If someone wants an open relationship, they should be forthcoming about that and get consent from you. If not, it’s dishonest and unfaithful.

Never have, never would.

Never

Some people never grow up.

Strangers on social media aren't love interests. As long as you didn't give him any money.

How did they find out about you?

It's definitely wrong unless it's part of the deal at the beginning.

Nope. I do not juggle well. I'm much more of a singular focus kind of gal.