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Have you ever felt guilty about how you treated someone.

What did you do and did you ever try and make it right?

paul1967 8 Apr 11
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Sure, but I didn't dwell on it.

When I first came to Thailand, my rude, brusque American mannerisms clashed with the polite Thai culture, and I gradually learned to moderate some of them.

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Of course. life is a learning curve.

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No, not guilty but kind of ashamed about my reaction. The fact the other person deserved to be put on her place doesn't justify my choice of words.

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Yea , I use to get around by going to confession . Now I look back and wish I had apologie to the people I wrong . That would have made me a better person

Shep Level 4 Apr 11, 2018
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Sure, I have been short sighted, rude, judged, or misjudged others. When I realized my error and it was possible, I have gone back to that person and apologized to that person and explained to them why I was apologizing. In most cases, apology was accepted. On a number of occasions, the person I was apologizing to didn’t remember the event. It apparently it meant more to me then to them.

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Yes, but I've owned it and let it go. This man hates me, ten years later. I've already done what I could to make amends, and now it's his problem and not mine.

Lani Level 5 Apr 11, 2018
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Yes!

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Yes

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I think we all have and some of us have a more ingrained sense of guilt than others. Of course I have felt ashamed at how I have treated another. If I didn't I wouldn't be human.

However, my former wife has taken that sense of guilt to another level. She once told a friend and I that she knows she is weak (she is Bi-polar) and hurts other people. But 'God' made her that way and understands and forgives her so it is alright.

...I would say we hope so!

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Unfortunately more than once, but I'm a believer in "what happens happens." The occurrence that sticks with me the most is when I was in college and cheated on my girlfriend who was an extremely nice girl. She ditched me, rightfully so, and moved on. I saw her at a high school reunion, talked, and now she's a good friend, although we live in different parts of the country. Then was then; now is now.

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Yes. I couldnt make it right with the people I hurt for various reasons but the guilt keeps from doing it again.

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Geeze paul... I'm full of remorse. Life can be rough on people. Young stupid people trying to be grown adults. The guys and gals I ran with... hmmm.. you just can't believe how crazy people can be.

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Does this include how we treated ourselves?

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Yes. Although sometimes I wonder if the guilt is necessary. I do that a lot. Feel immediately guilty, then question it.

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Yeah, I'm feeling guilty af right now about how I treated someone once when I was 13. I need to look him up and make it right. THANKS for reminding me that I'm a terrible person, lol.

13? If I go that far back ... There aren't enough days left, don't think.

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In my late childhood/early teens I was resentful towards and mean to my younger severely daiabled sister. Poor kid had it 100 s of times worse than anoyone I know. I was pissed how hard my life was.
I feel so ashamed now 50 years later.

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I get mouthy when I drink sometimes depending upon with whom I'm drinking and can say not only mean things but things I'd never say while sober so I've issued apologies when I know I've said some hurtful things to people I like.

SamL Level 7 Apr 11, 2018
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Of course! You aren't human if you haven't recognized how your actions or inactions have affected others.

Well you could be a human sociopath

@Rudy1962 Only humans can be sociopaths.

@LucifersPen should have read "they" and not "you. Wasn't trying to insinuate you you are a sociopath. And yes sociopaths are humans who don't recognize or worry about how their actions affect others

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Feel extremely guilty I had fight with my 90 year old father and mother one week before he died. Went to funeral and saw a stranger-it was awful.

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Yes, if it was bad...but, then you must try and make amends and forgive yourself and move on!

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