I'm having difficulty getting over a previous relationship. What advice would you offer to heal a broken heart?
I know parting ways with someone you harbored strong feelings for can be difficult, but it is rewarding to move forward with your life and get active in the dating scene again. In the meantime, involving yourself in hobbies and interests would also take your mind off of things.
I've been terrible at getting over women in the past. Like some have said, I would distract myself. Alcohol would often make it worse. I'm learning to focus on me a little: do things I love, be around people I know give a sh*t about me, listen to music till I fall asleep, write a song about the situation...whatever gets me out of the "why me" phase. I'm still working on it but it gets a touch easier as I get older. Being single the last 2 1/2 yrs helps as well haha!
You need to find an older guy to have some very wild meaningless sex with. The more sex the better. ?
Really? Take some time off from relationships and work on yourself. When you’ve recovered, look around. What you don’t want to do is jump into something else right away.
You could try putting you feelings down in words. It may not seem to help much at the time but just think of all those songs about this subject (blues etc.). If nothing else it can help with closure and you get some writting out of it when the dust has settled
As others mentioned, time heals and absolute NO contact rules work the best. Erase everything. Take time as much as you need. We go through the same stages in any traumatic event. 1 Dinial, 2.Anger, 3.Bargaining,4. Sadness, 5. Acceptance
Where are you at? I am going 4 and 5,back and forth and back and forth. But I feel I will be at stage 5 completely very very soon.
To get over a man, get under a new one!
Really, though: time. Free of expectations, shoulds, shouldn'ts, self-recrimination, judgments. Don't put that on yourself, or let anyone else put that on you. None of that "I want to get over it as soon as possible; I'll do whatever it takes" or "You should be putting yourself out there" or "You're still hung up on so-and-so??". Just, no. That garbage will only make things worse.
Let time pass. Let your process unfold however it unfolds. Don't fight it. Accept your process. Dwell in the discomfort, if you have to (note I say "in" the discomfort, not "on"* it!).
Trust in time.
Wouldn't it be wonderful if their were some trick to just heal and move on?
Actually the only cure is time. Unfortunately, the amount of time isn't the same for everyone. How you spend the time can affect who miserable that time is though.
Distract yourself when you can. Stay busy, don't sit around and torture yourself. It's okay to grieve, and sorrow is normal as well as inevitable, but don't let it keep you down.
Good luck. Take care of yourself.
first accept that it's normal. If its recent then you haven't given yourself enough time to heal some people take longer than others. remember to not let it take over your whole life interfering with all the other good things in your life. and as cliche as this is it is true there are plenty of fish in the sea... it's called heartbreak for a reason. and sometimes that happens more than once..
I remember when I was younger when having a break up my mind could not stop making up reasons why does person didn't want to be with me anymore..Our mind makes up way worse scenarios and plays over and over in our minds..
if you have some girlfriends maybe spend some more time with him have a girls night out or a girls night in and don't even think about guys.
Ugh. It's never easy. Vodka helps, but that's really just a temporary measure.
Like others here, I'd suggest pulling back and regrouping.
I have recently reacquired the moon. It was a thing for me and the former love of my life. I couldn't see it without thinking about her. And now, it's mine again. But that took two years of hard graft, so none of this ever happens quickly.
On the other hand, you can survey the wreckage of the relationship, understand what you should and should not do in the future and apply that.
All Homespun 101 stuff, I know, but you just need to get that person out of your head.
They say the best way to vey over someone old is you get under someone new...
Although it can be fun I don't think it works.
Try getting out with friends as much as possible. Also keeping a journal helped me. You can write everything you are holding in and it does give a bit of relief.
Best wishes to a speedy recovery on your heartache! ♡
Many a person might suggest that if you've never had your heart broken, then you haven't lived. I seem to remember that's it's a horribly painful experience that makes one terribly despondent and woefully unhappy whilst experiencing it. In hindsight, years later, many people feel that the process added to their if life experience in a positive way ultimately. People say that time is a healer. That's all the philosophical crap out the way , but in practical terms, I think it helps if you distract yourself by embracing another passion, such as Sport, Work, Dancing etc, whatever floats your boat and allows you to see that there is life after love and life can be great fun and shit sometimes. It's that very experience of both sides of the coin, that gives you "perspective" and "contentment" in later stages of ones life. Good luck ?
Depends on you, the situation, and how those variables interact. You could write or talk about it, if that might help. Distract yourself from it. Just take some time alone to fully feel and process. Figure out what was good and bad in the relationship so that you can try to make sure your next one is better.
Maybe none of these things and you just slowly heal over time.