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What I say to men who ask, "What turns you on?" on dating websites.

How would you answer this question? Here's how I reply:

“What turns you on?”

“Hearing you describe how toxic masculinity hurts women."

"What turns you on?"

"Not this question."

LiterateHiker 9 Mar 24
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@Julie808 nails it.

A simple answer could be "Not someone stupid and vulgar enough to ask the question you just did." combined with "I'll be leaving now."

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I would reply by hitting the "next" button. No fair in trying to cheat out of the natural discovery. Spend time with a person and see what "turn ons" you share, quietly honestly and genuinely. Not going to get a real answer with with a cold question like that.

Perfectly stated.

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It's a question I'd only ask during foreplay, otherwise I'd have thought many women would respond "seeing a man do housework" 🤣🤣

@Cyklone

Perfect! Thanks for the belly laugh.

That's an excellent answer. And yes, it does.

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Intelligence and getting to know someone first. And friends wonder why I'm single; I tell them this is what is out there.

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I don’t ask that question. I might ask what her passions are, like hiking, gaming, or whatever.

My answer if asked, is intelligence, looks, and touch

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Not men who ask me intimate questions like what turns me on?

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Intelligent Conversation, a kind personality, acceptance of each other and the faults of each other, a genuinely cheerful smile, a good sense of humour that allows for each other to be themselves humour-wise ( especially since mine can often be quite Risque, Bawdy, etc, etc,) NOT seeing the other person as clay awaiting to be re-modeled AND NO religion/religious affiliations in particular.

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Intelligence, personality, education, looks

bobwjr Level 10 Mar 24, 2021
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Maybe it's kind of clumsy and lazy to ask a question like that. If you really want to know what turns someone on, I think it's a matter of taking all the time it takes to know well that person, to be a good listener, to have some empathy, to make sure the mood and the chemistry is right.

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Good answers!!

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