On a dating website. However, those success came when I wasn't quite as picky as I am now. Hummm... Just haven't found a good fit yet. Not sure dating sites are the right place anymore but I work from home so... I do think it's worth the search no matter how long it takes because life, for me, is better when shared with a close friend/partner.

Met my husband on OkCupid. I'm polyamorous, and I met my GF in middle School. My husband met our bf first through a career event. I met him through my husband.

Haven’t really. Been on a few dates the last 5 years. But few. And no clicks. I’m thinking it may be the end of sex for me. Just not into the casual sex deal. If I wanted that I’d be dating cubs. Lots of those. LOL!

I've had decent success online and through friends. I've made 37,811 solo trips to bars, and never gotten a date from one.

Still searching

OK, so we all see comments from women who claim that guys just want sex and they're just sick of these horn-dogs. Well, there are surely some guys like that... but you can weed them out quickly can't you? I suspect you do. I want a complete relationship that INCLUDES intense loving intimacies which brings us both JOY... not excludes them, or offers a Sex-Lite version. My past near-misses included wonderful women who, due apparently to things they wouldn't talk about from early in their lives and previous marriages, were just unable to fully enjoy intimacies, or even talk about it. Takes months of travel, talk, efforts and weekends to get to that point where one realizes there's not a complete person here. Many women our age (60's) are looking for a travel companion, a handyman, whatever. They say they can get sex "anywhere and anytime" they want... but IF that's true, you can get a travel companion, or handyman "anywhere or anytime", too... or instead! True for some guys, too... "anywhere, anytime", but maybe that's the problem. Sex is pretty worthless unless it's an integral part of a deeply loving, caring and respectful relationship. I'm not here looking for a night, a weekend, or a shallow relationship, but I feel terrible about leaving an otherwise-wonderful lady who, after months together, admits it's been like this all her life (and ALL her marriages and re-marriages) and it isn't going to get any better and no, she's done with therapy forever. I think many of us men and women want/need the whole package and a certain level of comfort, even thrill and enjoyment with sex is just a really important part of the BIG PICTURE for some of us. That may be why guys bring up the subject early (testing the waters), but it is not all we want... it's a vital part. Without some vital part of any relationship, people move-on, just go out and get that elsewhere, or suffer in bitter silence. Not good. It's mighty refreshing to see careful wording in a lady's profile and comments that she's still looking for loving intimacies with the right man.

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Bars,that is where l work and socialize.

This seems oddly worded: "for those actively looking...where did you find success?".
Aren't the two mutually exclusive? If they are still actively looking does not that imply that they have not yet succeeded?

PS -- I voted other because I was forced to vote in order to comment....

Being a 53 year old mother of an at home 12 year old, I haven't put much into it as the risks may outweigh the benefits right now. Was married for 13 years, divorced for four and haven't dated once. Yes I've been asked. I am really liking the community. I originally put "interested in meeting men" on my profile but I took it off.
My looks are no longer one of my best assets but I have other strengths and qualities.
Moved a year ago and am still unpacking. I'm very involved and content with my son, my critters and my interests. Someone asked me what I do when I get bored. LMBO. What's that?
I probably should start a new post. How do you feel about dating with kids? When do you get back on the horse or don't you? Thanks for your thoughts.

I had the best luck in college where we were all in the same or similar boat. We could visit every day and check each other out without it being obvious and we could decide if we wanted to see each other much more casually than on a dating site. It was much more natural than this abstract, digital environment. I'm bad at digital, I guess. Or maybe I'm just so much better in person when it's not a dating situation and girls appreciated not getting hit on all the time. Beats the hell out of me how this whole thing works!

A lot of great and interesting stories on how people met. I never had any luck, myself. I tried 4 different dating sites with no luck. I dated a co-worker once that went south quick and ended even worse (and I do mean worse). Several setups from friends never worked either (they all ended up cheating on me or going back to their last boyfriend). Once I asked a worker at a grocery woman out once, and that never worked out. Saying all this, sure makes me sound bad. Believe me, I am a nice guy. Seeing all these awesome stories, does give a guy hope I can still find someone to be with.

I live in the country.... the beautiful mountains of West Virginia. But religion is big here in WV and so is Trump. Education low, worldly knowledge (diversity) is zero. Clannish behavoir rules. Everyone grew-up with everyone else and was married to half of them at least once, or their cousins. Online "dating" websites are the only way for me. I need a lady a couple hours away who has travelled beyond county lines and understands there's more to the world than her family-church bubble.

It usually happen when I'm not at all looking or expecting. Could be any time any place... Ramdom... chaos in action.

Music venues work best for me, but then I love music so it is a likely place to find people that also love music.

I have had success on dating sites and completely random/unexpected situations just about anywhere.

Me it's dating websites or the supermarket for some reason !

Still trying to find the right place and time......

In the beginning, it was always through high school/friends.....and a few random encounters at SIx Flags. Later, it became work, pubs, and nightclubs, and occasionally at college. I met quite a few women at Mardi Gras in both New Orleans and Saint Louis. However, for the last 12 years or so, it seems to be mostly online, through MySpace, then Facebook, then OKCupid.

I found two boyfriends on ok cupid.

Met my two ex-husbands in bars. One in college at school 99 Club and second in a bar performing in his band Mantis. My next long term relationship of ten years we met through a personals ad in newspaper. Have met many through dating sites. Met member here but we weren't compatible.

My friend is active in a singles hiking club. He said that there is usually a ratio of 4 men to each woman.

I had lots of success on POF. Sadly they turned out to be gold-diggers and I have no tolerance for that crap or else they were bat-shit crazy and a few turned out to be bible thumpers which I clearly stated in my profile that I wanted non-religious. One even turned out to be all 3, a gold-digging bat-shit crazy bible thumper.
So that's why I'm trying Agnostic.com out. Regardless of the very small pool availability of suitable compatible companionship prospects, at least the conversations are interesting once you weed out the trolls.
I dated a number of attorneys on Match (I'm a former paralegal) but it turned out that they really didn't have time for a relationship no matter how much they wanted one.
So here I am.

I had been entirely single, tried dating through websites, lost that interest, and then this site happens. Joined it in December with no real expectations of meeting someone from here. And then, Voila! A gentlemen in a neighboring county to me appeared out of the blue on this site, we met and the connection was real and honest. We are still together since meeting in January but officially "steady" February 18. He left this site shortly after meeting me as this site served its function for him. I still enjoy this community as, ultimately, I joined to meet like-minded intelligent individuals. Win/win for me. Best of luck to you!

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