Or are men not listening? Not paying attention? Not caring?

I have a tongue that likes its work. I also have fingers that are well exercised. I also like the toys that some of the websites I have read have said that women like. I have also read that book called She Comes First. Is that enough or do I need to do more?

I am so glad I'm a lesbian.

Or men prefer to get off first before the woman does. Which is my case rn. I don't have sex much anymore, because it lasts 1 minute! Grrr...

The reason is because I was not included in this study. or perhaps they interviewed a lot of women that men are not interested in.

I guess they need to sleep with more gay men.

Both. Definitely both. Fortunately I'm not straight, nor is my husband. (Straight women with straight men are statistically worst off for pleasure).

The latter. I had a terrific mother whom l could talk to about anything and she gave me great advice when it came to questions regarding sex. I was very lucky in that regard.

No surprise here lol

I never believe a word of any "studies" They are as reliable as "Statistics"

I have found, in my intimate relationships that many women are very reluctant (or perhaps even able) to communicate verbally what pleases them. And we really don't have a good sexual vocabulary in our language (no, "do it to me, daddy" doesn't count).

Although it may well be the case that many men ARE relying on porn for carnal knowledge, I think it more likely that they are just ignorant that there is knowledge to be acquired...a matter of "sex should be natural." And clitoral, G-spot, or extra-vaginal stimulation doesn't enter into their thought process.

Personally, I would GREATLY appreciate a woman who was eager to communicate what she likes, and willing to help me getting better at it.

If you're involved with a guy, don't be afraid to tell him exactly what you like. Discuss it at length as foreplay as often as needed. Guys usually like a woman who gives feedback by your words or facial expressions or body language. If your guy doesn't know what he's doing, it's because you didn't train him. All women are totally different in their needs. Expecting him to know exactly what you like when his only experience is from what other women told him or didn't tell him is blaming him when you didn't speak up. I generally do every possible thing that there is and then ask her or gauge response. But generally I can determine where I should be going based on a woman's responses. If he isn't doing that, he likely doesn't care and you should find another guy.

Not this one! Buwahahahaaaaaaaa!

Any woman both loving me and eager to write about our bodies TOGETHER will solve this problem with our book tour publisher and publicist filmographers

Maybe they should learn to bend a bit more ?

Not guilty, just ask the lesbian I met last year.

That figures.

I'd say part of the reason this might be is "increased comfortability" with one's own sexuality among "gay" women.

I say this because I think anyone who openly lives as themselves despite social and cultural (yes, including religious) persecution, then they are probably very comfortable with whatever aspect of themselves for which they are being mistreated.

Or something.

You get out of something what you put into it. If you put the right ingredients into a receipe and go out to ensure you have put in the correct spices and everything else is time and temperature. You have to pump up the tires before you can ride the bike. Slow and easy wins the race. If it isn't worth waiting for, then its not worth having. According to any of these above studies, your going to win every time. One night, blind date, on line slam bam thank you maam is not a noted road to accomplishment. Mix in a little tease, some personality and talk the talk.

Women know what they enjoy.

Every relationship is different.

Really? That's just damned lazy.

You have been hanging out with the wrong men...I spent 4 years in the Orient and learned to breath through my ears...Bottoms up!!!!

Bummer.