Thanks. Yes, I meditate. Otherwise I'd probably be in a lot worse shape!

me too. MY sister lives on the east coast. my parents are long gone I miss them terribly especially my mom. I miss having family like we did when i was a kid. always something going on..now nothing

people like that have a lot of fear

Yes, that's my mother, too.

My mother was a paper tiger

@squiggy_70, @bleurowz Yeah, I just have to think about what she's going through in her own head to be like that. It helps me to not react too harshly. She's a good person, but obviously has some demons.

@Piece2YourPuzzle yup that's it. it isn't you it is their stuff.

i never had a kid i wish I had I long to nurture some one like that. when they grow up and no longer look at you as their mommy it must be so hard. in other cultures people always live together different generation. and they are better for it

@squiggy_70 your on to something we are my son and l are Eurasian but the further east, particularly East Asia families of generations remain together longer or on and on and the are great benefits Occidentals may not understand or have a similar experience, rather positively

@Millerski25 Well put. I think that'a what's been happening. My mother will even defend herself by saying, "well, I'm a mom" -- okay, but I'm not a child. And I have to remember not to go back to being one.

@bleurowz you will always be her baby so let her have that. I'm not saying let her control you life . I'm just saying...

Kindness “”””” can be a form of control and that can lead to other issues particularly with men who are often in the controller role which isn’t based so much on love but rather the deep insecurity of controlling men who can be deeply threatened

but society take such a dim view of it all

@squiggy_70 a dim view of medical treatment that can help you? Not my kind of society. & why does anyone but you & your doctor have to know? You don't owe society an answer for your well being.

@Morganfreeman for some maybe. But how does one know if one doesn't try alternatives to enduring pain. Too many suicides from folks not getting help.

Good god, not Xanax. I worked in the field for 25 years and Xanax withdrawal is worse than heroin, worse than anything.

@GuyKeith I am not suggesting addiction. But when anxiety takes hold, 1/4 of a tab smoothes me out. I can then handle the world without the fight or flight response taking over.. I do not suggest taking it as directed. Only in situations that seem to overwhelm. Respect your concerns for withdrawal. Withdrawal has to be incremental for those addicted. It is not meant for daily use IMO

Country woman I admire your honesty... you’re a woman after my own heart

@Millerski25 Nice of you to let me know.

@Countrywoman medicare knows. then they give your doctor shit then he gives me shit.

@squiggy_70 Different doctor maybe.

@GuyKeith good point

@Countrywoman I do the Xanax, but like you mentioned only if I really need it. It's my "in-case-of-an-emergency-break-glass" medicine. Thankfully hasn't gotten to that point yet with the folks!

@bleurowz Take the smallest amount that works. I take a pinch when I have to go out in traffic. The instructions say 2 tabs a day.. Now that would really make me crazy. The tabs are 0,25 miligrams. I take 1/4 of a tab on occasions where the stress will cause anxiety. Once every 6months or so. I control my drugs. They do not control me. Doctors prescribe so they get benefits from big Pharma. You are in control of your health. Good luck & peace.

@bleurowz you don’t owe an explanation as people do what they need to do to cope at times. I would be so cavalier about psychotherapy or group therapy

oh don't go down that road. the helping stuff. the road to hell is paved with good intentions. you wind up being blamed for stuff ain't your fault

@squiggy_70 did you make that up... coin it

@Millerski25 i wish no it is a old expression. but I found in my experience to be so true. I am the codependent person. may be that is why I became a nurse. always trying to help people who then bleed you dry and ruin your life . But living alone I am finding hard all the time.. I need someone i wish I had a partner. an easy going one

@MattHardy It's their own stuff, the best way I can help them is to not allow myself to get caught up in any drama.

@sassygirl3869 Absolutely, I don't diminish my gratitude for their help. Just have a really hard time managing the effects of their anxiety while I'm here.

That's the plan. Can't manage it yet.

@bleurowz
Life's a bitch. Save more every month ? Lol

@bleurowz you must know that living alone has its own emotional issues however if also an opportunity to explore your own feelings

@Millerski25
I think the pro's outweight the con's ?

@Millerski25 I've lived alone, so I do know this. It's a matter of health and finances right now that don't make this possible, so I'm working on turning this around.

@bleurowz
Good for you my dear. We are with you !

When one has an underlying generalized anxiety d/o as Freud said about anxiety sometimes a cigar is just a cigar

I'd say they're mostly little things but she'd say they're all important.

it sure does!!!

except when you have to move furniture

Absolutely, that's my goal. Just can't manage it yet.