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Wondering why more "cat people" tend to be female than male. I've been around cats all my life, and I love their beauty, character, spirit, and independence. Yet relatively few males seem to appreciate these qualities.

charles-arizona 3 Feb 22
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I know more males who are cat people and more females who are dog people. I'm more of a dog person but I have cats too.

graceylou Level 8 Feb 23, 2019

It seems to be changing. I have noticed that people who are need more control, tend to have dogs. Cats require more chill peeps. In general of course. I am a cat person, who happens to also have a dog. But I am really a complicate animal person. Someday I may post more, when I am ready for some slings and arrows.


Maybe it's tradition. Maybe they just never had one?

Hathacat Level 9 Feb 22, 2019

One of my son-in-laws had cats when he met my daughter, the daughter I almost disowned because "she did not like cats as much as dogs." LOL! Now she is the first defender of the female cat that they have, whereas her husband is the male cat's defender. THe cats are Charles and Elizabeth, and let me tell you I love cats, but Elizabeth is a bitch. One of my uncles also was a cat lover. He had 4 cat for a long time, 3 were exotic breeds and one was just a cat. The "just a cat" was the most fun of all of them.


My experience has been that fewer men ADMIT to liking cats. My dad, for example- total cat person, can’t sit down without a cat getting on his lap, told my mother they should keep the feral kittens that she (my mom) trapped in the horse barn...and still tells people he doesn’t like cats and they’re not “his” cats!

SkagwayKim Level 7 Feb 22, 2019

My boyfriend has 3 cats and I have 2. We got together when I had a shirt with cats on it and he started a conversation with me about it. Someday we will have one household with 5 cats. Woop, woop.

Susieq Level 7 Feb 22, 2019

Kinda like The Brady Bunch! LOL


It was a couple of days , before I realized a cat had moved in with me . And given birth to her litter of six kitties . She gave it a lot of thought . The back yard had a lot of little lizards , and other small prey . It was quiet - no loud dogs or kids . She found a protected spot she could easily access , but other animals could not easily get into , it was shady and out of the rain , on a side porch I didn't frequent . On my own , so few conversations , no loud radio or TV . They didn't like the sound of male voices . When a male came for whatever reason , the cats immediately went into hiding , and stayed hidden for twenty minutes or so , after the males left . In my opinion , at least a part of the reason cats seem to be more often with women than men is the noise factor - cat's choice .

Cast1es Level 8 Feb 22, 2019

I love my Kittie!!!!


I think plenty of men like cats.

Rob1948 Level 7 Feb 22, 2019

No idea.


I think its more of a control are not so comfortable with things they can't control and - let's face it, you can train a dog to behave the way you want it to but cats pretty much do as they please. 😉
Also, dogs give unconditional love and affection.....cats make you work for it! hahahahaha

Lavergne Level 8 Feb 22, 2019

@Agnieszka the only control freaks that I encounter are women. My old girl Puss Puss came to me when she was about six weeks old. She had her 22nd birthday last November. I sadly do not think she will make it to 23 as she is hardly eating and wasting away. She still gives me lots of purrs when cuddled, brushed and stroked but it now only happens once a day and for only a few minutes.

@FrayedBear hey -- control freaks come in all sizes, shapes, colors and genders. I was just generalizing..... 😉 I feel for your situation - I, too, have an old girl. Tess is 21 her sister (litter mate) died last year and we know Tess is on borrowed time - but for now, she eats like a little horse and is the most lovable sweetest cat in the world. 🙂

@Lavergne: I notice women walking large dogs past my house. I have a feeling it's partly for protection. Men might have dogs for that reason,too, which is fine as long as they can keep them under control. As for me, I have never owned a dog but always had at least 1 cat.

@Lavergne 2 years ago my Puss had a fussy but healthy appetite but was a lot more active. Mind you at 154 human equivalent years I think I would be slowing down!

@Lavergne I never bothered with the DSM statistics for the prevalence in the population. I'm just going by my encounters and again it may be a local phenomena like the effect that the horse and cart had on the genetic pool.

@Agnieszka Never be jealous - just complain about not getting enough ... of anything!

That right there should be your bio picture!


Good question... Dog's are more powerful? So men get an ego boost... Maybe?

It would be easy to say "guys like to give orders" but that seems simplistic. Dog owners always talk about "" but I had a cat who was absolutely uninterested in other people ... for whatever reason. Cats can be very .


Seriously, as ridiculous as it sounds (to me, anyway), I really do think a lot of it has to do with rigid gender expectations/divisions of every bloody thing into "feminine" or "masculine." I used to teach Gender Studies and we'd make enormous lists of how so many things are associated with one or the other.

One of my favorite exercises was deciding if a food was "feminine" or "masculine." We'd argue and debate; it was fun and educational.

My daughter describes herself as "gender neutral" and uses neutral pronouns. I wonder how she describes her cats. Can't ask because she got mad at me for my lack of enthusiasm about the pronouns.

@charles-arizona Perhaps you will become enthusiastic, because it’s important to them.

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