I have chosen to place this here to let others know that we do move forward. When I first became a widow just over nine years ago, I had nine of these hallmarks, the second year I had ten. I didn’t let anyone know the torment I was in. It was comforting to know this is the way out of my agony, except for one thing, one question, who was going to find me? That would be my brother, I could not do this to him, but I came very close. Nine years later, I have none of these hallmarks. For all who has had their beloved die, you will move forward.
When my partner died 3 years ago, looking over the chart, I see I had 1 and still have 1. That one is the frequently talking about death. The reason being is that she got into the Death with Dignity program and I saw how valuable this was in helping to eliminate suffering. I am a big proponent in that and post/comment frequently on it. I also looked into the time of my own death and got involved in the Final Exit program.
My partner agreed that if (when) one of us died before the other we needed to look forward to our own life and let the past be (pleasant) memories. There can be life after death.