I lost two beutiful people in three months,my girlfreind and my sister

Lynn passed away in 2002. I still miss her and her love. But it is better though the pain will never go away. Time alone won’t heal the hurt, you have to work at it. Make new friends, find new interests, and work on yourself.

Thanks everyone I am doing better today. I’d never want the memory’s to stop as it’s bitter sweet always. But just some days it is a gut punch. I read and took to heart all of your kind words. I know here you all understand and I will not hear why have you not gotten over this? I try to many times just to hold it inside but my dear cousin hears it all . Sorry Cousin.
Hope you all have someone in your life to say anything and they will listen. But we have here and I’m willing to listen anytime.
Thanks everyone.

It's important, I think, for those of us in this position, to ask ourselves, what would we want our partners to do if it we were the ones that died? Time for mourning is needed and each one has a different period of time but, in the end, we need to go on and make the most of our lives.

I find it gets easier as time pases, but I still get ambushed every now and then.

My partner died 3 years ago. We vowed to keep the mourning short (the memories are forever) and get on with our lives. I would have wanted that for her and she for me. Socializing (but not with other widows) is a good way to start.

It probably will never get better but with time we get stronger. Maybe that's the same thing.

Be patient with yourself and just be in the moment each day. It's been 16 months for me and I am still missing my darling Richard every day. We all have our own path and sometimes we can get out and do things and other days we just want to be at home and alone. Just do you every day and don't have a worry about MIA. We all understand.

smile for the memories. I'm sure he'd want that