folks - Thank you! i am so new to this forum i haven't even got my profile up yet - but i needed some rational folk to gather opinions from - I really needed to hear that my sense that this really wasn't okay to do this way was valid. I know there are 2 sides to every story - and obviously he was not happy - and i would never want anyone to be with me if they weren't truly happy - and vice versa - i just think it's sad that after all that time and intimacy and all the nice things I did and the caring i showed him and his family, this makes sense to him. but it is what it is. I just really needed to download and get some straight opinions - i can't thank you all enough for taking the time to share your thoughts and personal stories. Please let me know if i can ever return the favour. M.

Too scared to man up

He is a coward??

Because he is a coward.

I'm going to guess he doesn't communicate well. Doing this while you are on the road could mean he's cleaning out the house and bank accounts. The bright spot in this debacle is that he doesn't get to see you weak, when you get back you can look strong and drive the narrative because you have had time to think it out. It's about you now, make plans. BTW, check your accounts, take your name off his cards before he puts a down on a lawyer, generally about $2500 you will be responsible for.

Because he’s a cunt. Sorry, but a strong expression is required.

Sorry to hear this. It would seem to be extremely inappropriate and insensitive. Unless he was angry for some reason and justified this method as OK. BUt a coward, non the less.

Wow. I have no words. Just, wow. And so sorry.

That's like something middle school children would do.

Like everyone else here...I'm on your side! OBVIOUSLY he hasn't any courage, empathy or even responsibility. You probably already knew that. Please take comfort in your women friends...they'll sustain you! Sorry I'm not nearby or I could sustain you!

This might not register with you right now...but, it WILL in future! This is a bump in your road! It's a door which you WILL close. You'll get through it and you'll be stronger and HE NEVER DESERVED YOU IN THE FIRST PLACE! ((((((((HUGS))))))))

Wow coward.

Sheer cowardice mixed with self-absorption.

So sorry for your situation. I hope you can take comfort in having your son with you; although I'm sure this is affecting him as well. But the only person who can answer your questions is your husband, who seems to be afraid to confront you in person for some reason. perhaps when you do see him, it should be on neutral ground, without your son present so you can talk about why this is happening - since it seems you don't know, and you should.

No-one with any decency that's for sure.

Because he's a cowardly chickenshit

Because he's a gutless SOB?

Simple; cowardice!

What a shit! He is just a little boy. You have so many here if you need anything at all!

I'm really sorry to read that, and if you feel like he went about it in a really shit way you're totally right - a text message is the way teenagers end two-week flings, not how an adult man ends a marriage.

I wish you all the very best. Stay strong.

In Arizona you can't even fire an employee via phone. What a coward, you are better off.

He is certainly not showing his son how to be a high character guy.

WTF?!? Unless there's a lot more to the story I can't think of a legitimate reason for this behavior.

Congratulations. Given his operating style seems you will be better off.

I'm sorry to hear that, it's just outright disrespectful, regardless of reason. No matter how I was frustrated in my prior marriage. I always said what I needed to face to face. I hope he explains himself, to do so like that is severely insensitive, regardless the reasoning.