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I'm on this other dating website and I've never been married with no kids. This woman responds to my message with "dating someone who has never been married or had kids would be too much of a cultural difference from my life for a long-term relationship."

OK, I do appreciate her viewpoint to some degree. Raising kids is the most challenging thing to do in this world, but her kids are gown up, out of the house. So now not having a history of divorces is now a liability in the dating scene? Is single with no kids a big red flag from a women's perspective?

AwarenessNow 8 June 12
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Not at all to me at least

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Ugh I hate dating sites. For some women breeding is their entire identy. I suspect she's one of them. Move on, and be glad she didn't want to meet you.

At his age, it's probably safe to assume that she is past the breeding phase. That's not her reasoning (I think)

@legna you're probably right that sounds like a pretty lame excuse. However, she may also be the kind of woman who wants to be Little Mommy for the rest of her life.

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it wouldn't be a red flag for me, but I'd wonder about compatibility. like, did you just not want kids? because i love kids and couldn't have married a man who didn't, even if I was done having kids at the time we met.

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Turn around, walk away.

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Obviously, she isnt for you ?

JayTea Level 6 June 12, 2018
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I wouldn't date someone who didn't have grown kids or who hadn't been married before either.
Otherwise, they usually haven't a clue what relationships and children involve, often seeming to think life is one big party.

@Ella thank you for that! as a matter of fact, that's probably one of the bigger reasons why we -don't - have kids. I was never willing to throw my entire life and freedom away so I could add to the overpopulation problem.

@Kojaksmom I don't care what YOU do, I just don't date men who have never been married or had kids.

@birdingnut that's fine but you seem to believe that there's a superiority about having children. but at the end of the day a preference is a preference

@Kojaksmom I never said that. I wasn't even talking to you. I said I didn't date men who'd never had children. You are a troll.

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