I had to ask my husband to leave as well. It's been hard, because there was no anger, there were no ugly fights. It was just me realizing I was having that marriage all by myself and I was no longer willing to do all the work. It is sad, and it is hard. It's been about 75 days now. Feel free to private message me if you'd like to chat sometime.

I always say.......

New Day ? New Life ?
New Beginning ? New Chapter
? New Adventures ? New Stories
? New Thongs ? New Bed ?
New Cleansing ? New Memories
? New Nail Polish ?
New Magic ? New You.

I'm sorry. Been there, done that. Feel free to message me if you'd like to talk about it.

Just went through this myself, and the divorce was final in April. My marriage was a dead duck before I pulled the plug for a couple of years previously, which made it easier to have the 'it's over' conversation. But you've got something big to look forward to! The ex and I awkwardly stumbled around each other for two months before she left...but when I woke up that glorious morning and she was finally on her way to the west coast...I felt so light I floated up the stairs to the kitchen instead of slogging along like I had been.

Though there have been some tough times getting my life re-arranged, they never seemed heavy...because they were finally -my- goals I was striving for in -my- space. Teaching myself to keep my eye on the Big Picture helped me look past the stumbling blocks the ex, the legal system and the dying marriage threw down on my path forward. My hope for you? That when he walks out the door for the final time, you feel that lightness and the ability to breathe as deeply as I did! I'm in such a great place right now I can hardly stand it...and you'll get there too!

I understand your pain.
Im stuck where you were before the sit down. Im also very unconventional and once Ive shared that much of our life together I don't believe in just ending it like CHOP.

Taking responsibility is not always easy, but always gives your life direction. This will help you pick up the right pieces and build something new. Creativity creates chances.

I'm so sorry to know you are suffering. I also know you are not entering into it lightly. Sometimes the best we can do for ourselves and others is provide the opportunity to grow in a new direction. I wish you and your family the best through this process of transition. Sending hugs and love. <3

It do suck. But!! Do something just for you.
Make it a habit...... a trip to the bookstore with a good cup of coffee, get lost in the shelves and the smells. (Hopefully no one farts. I love old books smells...kinda like mimeograph... Hahaha)
Or, or, or a solo meditation. Find a new spot once a week, revel in the trip and anticipation of getting there then let it all GO!
Get on your bicycle and race the wind or chase your shadow.
You could also draw the blinds and crank up the stereo, dance til you scream, cry, collapse or all of them.
The point is....stay engaged, nuture your inner child and your healing process. Its not about him. My heart goes out to you....all the best to you!

You can make it. Just know that you have a bunch of us here if you need anything.

Sorry to hear that. Keep your chin up. You can pull through. Be patient with yourself.

Been there done that. One day at a time. Hugs.

Sorry to hear about your struggles. Keep your head up. Hugs.

I have been there, it is awful but it will get better. Sending hug your way.

When my wife died in Sept,talk about my World being turned upside down? I had to move out of the house we called home for 14 years, renting it out to keep it to a nice couple who plan to buy it,but I moved about 10 miles away,most of the $6k in tools given away to a tool poor son of the family I'm staying with, most of my CD's and audio equipments in storage, still have a garage to empty out ,no ideas of where It's going yet. Life, no one said it would be fair......

Yup, I remember that moment well. It sucks. my divorce was as amiable as could be and it was still awful. Be strong, it gets better as time passes. Best wishes

Take plenty of time to grieve the loss, not necessarily him, but the marriage as a whole. Use the next several months to ponder and reflect, work on you (especially if you've lost your true identity). Have some goals and a bucket list outside of the divorce. Learn from the past, but don't dwell on it. Your life is in the here and now with an Eye to the future.

I finally have the strength, once again given to me by my daughter. I found a piece of property where I told my husband that I wanted to separate from him for a year and then give the property to our daughter. I know he will pull the so that’s it we are ending it? card. And finally, finally.....I have the strength to say yes, if that’s where you want it to go.??

Never an easy thing to go through, even if it is what you want. You have my sympathy.

It hurts like hell in the beginning but its so sweet when you get a handle on it.

This song leaks out onto the pavement.
It could be a joke, it could be a statement.

The more that I fake it and pretend I don't care,
The more you can read in to what isn't there.

Maybe it's time to stop swimming.
Maybe it's time to find out where I'm at.
What I should do and where I should be,
But no-one will give me a map.

I'll leave now, this can't continue.
But I forget which door I came through.
And I know that the lift can be painfully slow,
So I think I'll leave by the window.

Porcupine Tree - Stop Swimming (from the album, Stupid Dream)

Sorry to hear you're going through this difficult chapter. I'll hope for you and your spouse, that you evolve into a peaceful , mutually beneficial resolution .

Wishing you all the best in your new ordeal. Life taught me... what's broken never get fixed. You can put it back together and taped it or glued it but... that's not fixed. I will have a "shot" of something to your health and future and hopefully 20 years from now you will see this day not as a "sad moment" but as a "happy initiation" of years to come. Good Luck!

I'm really sorry it was so unpleasant. It always is. Let me sound like an idiot optimist, but now you can get started on what comes next. You have a whole world of possibilities. It won't be smooth going but it's probably going to be better than it has been. Hang in there.

I'm so sorry to hear that, but you'll see the light at the end of the tunnel soon. Be strong and true to yourself. A big hug for you