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Sitting here at my cousins funeral thinking about how much I don’t want this circus when my time comes. Anybody got some good ideas for no religious memorial services? And how do I make sure the family doesn’t try to slip in some foolishness?

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Ain't going...but if something un-fore seen comes up, somebody should throw me in a barditch, kick some dirt over me, and tell god I died. It's welcome to whatevers left.


1 word cremation

Seanjohn Level 5 June 16, 2018

There will be no funeral, memorial service, or celebration of life to mark my death. I will be cremated. I am to be cremated. MY ashes are to be taken to Kansas where she and my two daughters will scatter my ashes on Lucas Point on '"Wilson Lake.As they are scattering the ashes, the melody, Ashoken Farewell" is to be played on an electronic device. That is exactly the way I want it to be.

wordywalt Level 8 June 16, 2018

I have written instructions for an "after party"... Wine (from my collection) and cheese accompanied by Jimmy Buffet music. You have to write it down and give it to one or more folks you trust.

jeshuey Level 7 June 16, 2018

Set up a living will that makes your desires irrefutable.

nvrnuff Level 8 June 16, 2018

I’m going to have some ashes spread over wher my children are buried. As for the rest I want a Coast Guard helicopter to spread them over the Gulf Of Mexico. I would get a kick if some of the ashes get caught in the rotor wash and hit the crewman. I would like to see that. ?

Mikeb56 Level 7 June 16, 2018

Donate your body to SCIENCE. It's the most sensible thing to do.

RaulPerez Level 7 June 16, 2018

I do secular, atheist, pagan, and non-Christian spiritual funerals (and weddings!). I'm sure there are others who also those services.

You need to get your final requests on lock-down and do funeral pre-planning and arranging. Write it all down...what you want...what's allowed to be said....etc. and make sure that trusted people will follow what you requested. You can also make it part of your will...that if someone goes against your wishes, they automatically forfeit anything you left them. Responsible adults also pre-pay for their funeral arrangements or have a "whole life" insurance policy to cover the costs of the pre-planned funeral.


Well, services are for the living, not for the dead, so I'd tell people around me I'd rather not have people do too much for it, but if it makes them accept your death more easily, there's no reason to not let them do their rituals.

MarcO Level 5 June 16, 2018

Donate your body to science.


Have a big party with food and a bar....everyone tells a good story about fun times we had. Drive carefully on the way home! That's about it.

LucyLoohoo Level 8 June 16, 2018

@Stevil RIGHT! My friend Tim was very specific about his ''memorial." No church...just a big party where the bar bill exceeded the food bill. Lots of fun...laughs...NO WEEPING ALLOWED! We did it--best one ever!


It involves a blast furnace and a strong wind.

azzow2 Level 9 June 16, 2018

Yep. That's how I want my sendoff to be.


I think I would at least come up with a playlist otherwise the wakes on 'The Wire' were amazing.

kmdskit3 Level 8 June 16, 2018

The Beatles. Across The Universe perhaps?

@Mikeb56 The problem I would have is limiting the songs to a hundred or less. Too many to choose from...

@kmdskit3 well I suppose the celebration of life would be multiple kegs then. ?


Some of my friends...had a ‘celebration of life party!’ But, they planned ahead and their wishes were honored! But, do leave ‘space’ for your loved ones to honor you, their way!


I've told my kids to do what they want to do. I'm not really going to be there and I don't really care. They should do what makes them happy or gives them comfort.

Fair point


A humanist funeral.


I personally don't want anything for myself. Literally nothing. I want my body donated to science and when they're done with it they can dispose of it with the rest of the medical waste. Death is a scam in America, I'm sure my loved ones can put the monetary value of my estate to better use.

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