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If your partner has no interest in religion but has a family who does and he/she insists on attending say family weddings, christmas etc out of respect, would you join them?

Nardi 7 June 16
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When I lived in the same state, I did join them for holiday get-togethers. I attended few weddings or funerals, however. (only 1 of each).

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I attend these events, but I won't take communion or pray. It's just part of the social obligations we partake in. During the bow your head moments is a good time to look around and find the other heathens!

I refused to the church or take communion as a pre-teen because the whole blood and body of christ thing made me sick.

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Yes, I'm an atheist, I'm not antisocial.

5

Absolutely. Family is family.

5

Of course why not.

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Yes. We are surrounded by religious people, I feel it is important to remember that they are still people, even if we disagree on matters of Faith. We would serve ourselves well to be part of a diverse community, and not alienate ourselves from that diversity.

I like your answer. 🙂

@Betty Thank you 🙂

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Of course! Love a party!

4

Oh, yes. You two are one!

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Within reason. Not every week or anything, but special occasions, sure.

scurry Level 9 June 16, 2018
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In church celebrations, I don't get up nor kneel when others do, but I'm here; usually, I've noticed people who don't share the faith usually sit in the last row and do like me. As for Christmas, let's be frank, there's so little of the religious meaning left to it it's not much of a hassle, it's really just a family get-together.

MarcO Level 5 June 16, 2018
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Yeah sure, all the religious mumbo jumbo is meaningless so I wouldn't be converted. So long as the company is good. the food is cooked and the beer's cold we'll all get along fine 🙂

ipdg77 Level 8 June 16, 2018
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Did it for years we just did not discuss our views until they approached it and we stated that the discussion must be reasonable and not an argument.It worked . If they started shouting we stopped the discussion and at times left.

Marine Level 8 June 17, 2018
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Yes

MsAl Level 8 June 16, 2018
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If I'm into her enough to be with her then yes. Also, as long as none of them are disrespectful to either of us.

3

If they are not hateful or hurtful people, I would still attend any family functions we were invited to.

3

Since it's all nonsense anyway, it's no different than a Christmas Santa Claus party.

3

Sure. I have done that.

2

No midnight mass! Stupid cerimoney boring as hell! Weddings I can last through them.

2

Yes. Sometimes life is hard and we are required to do something we don't like. That's life. Respect, obligations, expectations, to keep the peace or to make someone happy will in the long run be worth it.

Betty Level 8 June 16, 2018
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I would as long as they don't ask me to be part of the religious bulls..t

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Yeah why not; being family is about compromise as much as anything else. Remembering always 'To thine own self me true'

StJohn Level 6 June 16, 2018
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Yes, if I had a partner, I would do anything to make him happy, if that makes him happy, as long as he feels the same way.

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Yes, respect.

Etre Level 7 June 16, 2018
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No problem with weddings & funerals, as you're there mainly because you care about the people involved. I don't see it as an endorsement of their religion, really. I would think most Jewish people would attend a friend's christian church wedding, & visa-versa. My husband begged me to go to his parents' very conservative church for Xmas & I was pretty uncomfortable about that. His dad was also singing in the choir & I didn't want to hurt that sweet old guy's feelings. There were no negative repercussions that I'm aware of. I won't go to regular Sunday worship though, or the Wednesday one either. Sometimes I feel that people's feelings are more important than my beliefs--What do you guys think?

Carin Level 8 July 17, 2018

Just because I feel and think differently than my family I still will go except mass. It's just because I'm a nice guy and don't hate for who they are. It will take time for others to be willing to see what's real. The religious brainwashing is hard to wash away for many and I understand that.

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I went to a couple of Catholic Christmas services with my ex in laws, but most of them weren't even religious. I really liked all my ex's siblings, so that helped.

I'll even attend a regular religious service if a friend has something special going on.

A friend here is openly gay but plays piano and the organ for the LDS and several atheists show up to hear him play. I'll give those specific LDS credit, they've never batted an eye, tried to convert us or seemed to care if we show up just to hear him play then leave.

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Of course! That's part of a good relationship, isn't it?

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