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I'm facing a serious jump from stay at home mom to single mom and feel I need to go back to school. I've been in part time sales for a year and a half and own a very small body art company for 9 years (henna, face painting and temporary body art.)

Im extroverted and amazing with people. But I'm not so keen as to stay in sales as I'm getting older. I'm creative but also ditzy and probably work best with structure because I get off task easily and socialize way too much. I have maybe 10 credits from community college from when I was 20, (1990) and am not sure if they still hold up? I've got no other education, I've got a serious lack in employment history. I was PTA vice president and a volunteer in my son's school, not sure how that'd help if at all...

I need to get something that will support myself. I'll be fine for a few years with my half of the equity and child support but these years being the fun, awesome stay at home mom/housewife who cooked all the meals and carpooled and made costumes and teacher appreciation luncheons and chaperone for all the field trips, did your laundry, cleaned the house, sent everyone cards... etc etc etc... it's over and I'm kinda scared. I need advice, thoughts, ideas.

I have no idea what direction to go. I know I don't want to be in sales anymore and I need something more than minimum wage. I know it sounds silly but I'd like to work in an office but have no idea what office people do. (There's tons of em! I just picture them typing all day, lol.) I'd like to travel, my kids are older and they can either take care of themselves here and there. I know I'd be good at training (I've taught a TON of enrichment classes at school and loads art classes) I just have no clue.

My pragmatic self says to go for a two year degree... somethings I've looked at are paralegal and sonographer; both sound interesting, both are easier to attain (2 years) but totally different. I have no passion for either. But I'm worried I'll wait too long to get started if I try to figure out my "passion" and I'm not getting any younger.

I'd love to hear what you do and why you love it, ideas about careers I never knew existed, out of the box jobs and any other advice. I have an opportunity to do something grand here, thanks for your input ❤❤❤

pepperjones 8 July 6
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I just want to follow this post because I'm a single mom (with no settlement and no child support) who's waiting tables to get by. I can't find a day job that pays as well, so I feel a bit stuck. I actually really hate answering the all American question, what do you do for a living?

I can't afford higher education, so I'm not in the same boat as you, but ideas are always welcome.

And, of course, I'm wishing you the best of luck!

@pepperjones My situation may be too different. He was the unemployed one for the last four years we were together... But I'd be grateful for any advice our new knowledge you gain from this post! ❤

Sorry to hear about your dilemma. There is always hope for you. I want to give some thought to this. I will get back to you with some thoughts.

@ezwryder That's very sweet of you, thank you.

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Please be careful Pepper; at 38 I went back to school and found that the 'learning environment' has changed drastically since we were teens. I can honestly say that, as an adult student, much of the required work was a simple waste of time - far too easy considering our life experience at this age. And what wasn't just too easy was pretty much handed to the student on a plate so their grades would look good (and they'd qualify for more student loans).

Yes, I got my degree, but it's worthless now, because the school I attended closed their doors as soon as they lost their ability to qualify to accept student loans from the Government. Years later, I am still in a legal limbo, hoping to get the $48k in debt erased.

Beware 'for profit' colleges. They are only out to line their pocketbooks, and make it look good on paper for as long as they can get by with it.

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Although I can't give career advice, let me offer you support! Being a single mom is probably the most difficult thing I know. WHEN YOU HAVE THE TIME (or when you MAKE the time)...try to form a friendly group of other single moms. You can trade shopping, child care, stories, worries, etc. You'll need that support, and other women are the best source! GOOD LUCK!

@pepperjones I'm glad to hear that! You WILL need them, at some point. Keep the idea of swapping child care, shopping, etc. It's how I was able to get through my daughter's childhood....and a LOT cheaper than hiring sitters.

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tDon't know what type of part-time sales you are in? Merchandisers are always being Why get a degree in something you're not interested in? You might need some career counseling? Temp jobs are a way of checking out a company or career. Contact a temp agency. Good luck.

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Check out programs offered by local area junior colleges. Only two years to a degree and there are many different courses offered. My son as a young man frittered away three years out of high school, then decided to take a two year building trades course. His class chose a location and built a house from the ground up and it sold immediately. Along the way the students learned a little bit about everything. My son went into business for himself as a carpenter, did all kinds of that, eventually ended up with a residential door business. Now 58, he's successful, no worries about the future. You could do the same. Look around, pick your field, and go for it. You can do it!

@pepperjones Ezwryder gives excellent advice. I got a 2 year nursing degree and paid my way through premed. Not saying nursing but 2 years is fast and you can get a degree with a distinct marketable skill. I would go talk to the advisors at the local community college if you are near one. If you can get grants but avoid loans. When I was in school they were easy to pay off but now they will make you a slave

@pepperjones that is good news. I read your post and think about the adjustment you are facing. It looks very daunting and I can appreciate the pressure but I think you are going to come out on top

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It might be worth going to your local career link office, if they have them in your area, to see what jobs are in demand and to see if there are any training programs that you are interested in and eligible for.

@pepperjones smart!

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Do you have any computer skills like Microsoft Word?

@pepperjones
Then you've marketable skills.
I'd suggest you also learn Access and upscale your Excel knowledge. Also, Visio is much in demand.
I've mixed feelings about college anymore. As an information technology hiring manager I found Microsoft certification a better indicator of proven skills as opposed to a degree. Something for you to consider.

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I have an older sister and younger sister. They both went back to school around age 50. One of them works for the state of Ca, the younger one just graduated and she is probably going to work for the state of Nevada
Look into the job market, see what's projected to be in demand, and do whatever it takes to secure the job.

@pepperjones, my older sister works for the State department of corrections, counseling inmates

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I worked at a job that I did not like for 30 years. I was in the printing trade. I stayed in it because the pay was good but I hated going to work every day.

I decided to go to the local JC, I started with one class that interested me. I did very well in that class and really enjoyed it. I was never a very good student in my younger days but I loved this class so much I decided to take more classes. I did not have a goal when I was taming the classes, I just took classes that were of interest to me. After a couple of semesters I decided to look into some of the certificate programs and found two that I was interested in. I picked one and went through the courses in the evenings after work.

Before I finished the course I got cancer and had to deal with that so I never finished the course. I stayed in the printing trade until the shop that I worked at started having financial difficulties and I decided it was time to find a new job.

Fortunately there was a local company that was in the field that I had taken the courses at the JC. At the time they were hiring like crazy so I applied for a job. They hired me in spite of my not finishing the course. The pay was not as good as when I was in the printing trade but I liked the job. That was 18 years ago and I am still with the company and I love my job. I am eligible to retire but I am going to continue working because I love what I do.

I say go for it, I think that you will enjoy learning something new.

@pepperjones You're welcome. Don't let anyone tell you that you cannot learn something new.

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If you are awesome with people, consider becoming a therapist or social worker. I'm not sure about all the entrance requirements for graduate programs, but you can get a Master's degree in two years and then start practicing. I like the work, can set my own hours, decide who I want to work with, etc. The paperwork is a bit onerous, but you get used to it. It's really rewarding work and can pay reasonably well if you are in private practice.

You can get a masters degree in two years if you have received your bachelors degree recently, so you could be talking about 6 years of school, that hard as a single parent.

@pepperjones Part of the reason I mention social work is because there are options to work as a therapist with social work training, not just CPS and such. Also, I'm not sure, but I think the education requirements are different (perhaps easier?). Anyway, another path to consider.

@pepperjones It might also be possible to get work as a behavioral tech, like at an addiction facility, where you can get your foot in the door while you are going to school part-time. The right place might also offer tuition reimbursement, etc., especially if it is connected to a hospital. I know that one of the hospitals where I interned had a program like that.

@pepperjones Gotcha. Sorry to hear about that 😟

@pepperjones Ok so it also occurred to me that you might want to seek out a career counselor. They may be able to help you narrow down your choices. Here’s a book many find helpful as well: StrengthsFinder 2.0 [amazon.com]

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