I had been talking to a guy for a month. Tried to meet up several times but he either had something come up or got sick. I was definitely getting the "not interested" vibe. But when I asked him he was always so like " no I am interested..lets just take it slow" So I point blank asked him if he wanted me or not. He gets all defensive and says for me to stop acting like we were dating!! Wtf?? I don't have time for games and I am too old for that shit anyway. Why can't men just be open and honest about their intentions??
It's not just men it's people in general. The same thing happened to me several times. We talk for a well or so and I like to be up front and simply ask if you are actually interested let me know and if not just move on, you would think I asked them to marry me. I think people just have too many options these days. Don't change because the right guy will appreciate your forwardness. I know I would.
I have a tendancy to talk to more women than men, it has always been this way. I can only think of about 10 reasons why. All of them having to do with my childhood. I am married to the love of my life, but I do not get out much, except for medical appointments and work, which I still do as I love what I do. Kate has a disease probably no more than 200 people on the planet have, this along with the hip problems, the knees that don't allow her to get around. Any way I try my best to say that I am not looking for a relationship. I have tried to help several people with what I know and have had some misunderstandings. Women think I am being forward, which if I were looking for a relationship I would probably be. But since I am not I just offer help. I want every one to be happy and get along. Life is hard enough and people do not need others playing games with them. This I will not do and if anyone thinks I am then they have to tell me.
I really think they should have a "just flirting" category.
@Carin I am not flirting here. I do not cheat, will not cheat. It is not fair to me, have more responsibilities than I wish, but I can handle them, it is not fair to my wife, I cannot lie to her, why would I want to, then I have to start remembering what I say and when, too much work and I am not smart enough to really pull it off, and for sure not honest or fair to any woman I would flirt with, there is no chance for a relationship, not while things are as they are. Perhaps not after that I cannot imagine nor would I want to speculate.