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What is happening to our Community?
I hope this doesn't turn into a rant... I just want to express my concern with some of the things I've seen happening on this site as of late. What spurred this on today was finding out about a new group that was created listing and talking about people that you blocked and that have blocked you and naming names. I can't see anything good coming from this.

I've been here a long time since last November and the "feel" of the community is changing. Perhaps because it has grown quite a bit and the increased numbers reflect a more representative profile of the general public. I don't know.

When I first came to the site (before there were groups) if someone was out of line or disrespectful they would be called out on it by the members but the discussion was always respectful and intelligent. But today there seems to be more and more divisiveness and arguments and disrespect.

So some of you know me and that I tend to be a positive and optimistic kind of person. Maybe that skews my perspective on this. Maybe that's not reality, again, I don't know. I have to be honest, I've had my doubts about whether I should stay on this site. I'm not sure that I am getting any benefit from the site like I use to.

I would like to get some feedback from you, the community and especially those that have been here long enough to see the changes.

Am I being unrealistic in how people should interact with each other? Are we changing for the good? Have we lost respect for each other's individual opinions and for each other? I would really like to hear your opinions, even those of you who may not agree. I'm open to listening to all points of view.
Thanks πŸ™‚

BeeHappy 9 July 19
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Somewhere....there are people saying that "The Facebook" was better when it only had students from Ivy League schools as members....

Communities change and grow.

I think of blocking this way --- on Facebook -- with 1 BILLION profiles, I am friends with 185 people.
On Facebook, we get to choose our friends/tribe/community.

Here? Well we automatically have 42,318 "friends" when we join and we have to NARROW it down from there. Blocking is the tool by which we trim out the ones with whom we have no desire to interact ever again.

HOWEVER, that doesn't mean we should publically try to "shame and name" the people we block (exception: perverts and scammers) nor should we start groups to talk about the people we have blocked (how dull and boorish are those conversations?).

Just because people all share agnosticism/atheism does NOT mean that they will get along in all aspects or even be able to summon up respect for each other's differences and opinions (do you respect someone's blind support of a politician you don't like?).

Let it go.

Find a few groups with people who you like, in general, and participate as much or a little as you like overall. But, this group is not real life and shouldn't be the be all, end all of your existence.

I'm of the opinion that if the site wanted blocks to be public they would have done so.

Yes in the case of people who prey on others we might post. Usually in an upper level group to help mods. until the person is removed from the site.

But publicly posting this. Just no.

I don't know why they can't just PM with each other if they are so intent on knowing who has and hasn't blocked them?

Seems like points mining.

And every time someone joins your group you get points. SMH.

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I think that just because this is an agostic site, there is the unrealistic assumption that the people here are incapable of stupidity, pettiness, "opposing" ideas, and having ridiculous beliefs or opinions outside of said atheism or agnosticism: that assumption is incorrect.

Yes we now have a flat earther. That blew my mind!

@RavenCT Who, who, who? I need more laughter in my life! ??

@KevinTwining I'll PM you later!

@RavenCT ta muchly! Xx

@RavenCT The guy/gal/whatever is seriously disturbed. That’s not a troll, that is serious insanity and delusion writ large and walking amongst us! Yikes! Got my laugh though - quite a few in fact. Ta. XX

@KevinTwining Yup it's for real.

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I have blocked several. I'm here for community; not here to argue, ridicule, demean, or in any way participate in rancor-its not my style. I will discuss and may disagree with another's pov, but am not into belittling or name-calling; unless the other person starts something. Then, I'll say my piece and either quit the conversation, or block that person. As far as I'm concerned, this site should be a positive experience. I'm not here to change anybody's mind about anything, either. My postings and comments represent my pov, and are there for any comment anyone wants to make; but if you attack me, directly or indirectly, you disappear from my content. Just the way it is.

With the growth of the site, a wider array of individuals will appear; some for positive reasons, some for negative. It seems to be how social media works. You can be sure there will be those who will come here intent on disruption, perhaps even destruction, of this site. I hope to stay on here for sometime to come, but I will not take abuse of any kind. I was on here close to the inception of this site, and because of personal attacks, left for several months. A couple of those individuals are still on this site, one I simply blocked, the other is now in my following, and vice versa. It's funny how things evolve.

I appreciate your feedback. Thanks.

@AMGT I'm sure you could have, but I appreciate the nod.

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Iv'e only joined about a month ago ish. But I have found this community that Iv'e ever been involved with. Sure there are some negative posts here and there. But mostly I have had the pleasure to get to know have been very kind towards me and my opinions, and I have of theirs.

To me, (with the exeption of one or two people) the people that Iv'e met here, even if we dissagree on something, we both are civil about our comments rather than get into a flame troll war.

I've been a member of many blog sites, some were good, some bad. But the time Iv'e i've spent here has given some of the best conversations I've ever had on a blog site.

I am so happy that that is your experience here. I've had the same in the past. Thanks for your comment.

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I think it IS the growth in size of the community. I was attacked personally for my opinion for the first time on this site earlier this week.

I hope you reported it.

We've all been learning about screen shots and sending those on to Admin or SiteSupport.

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Yes I confronted them and was told it was my nasty mind that had a problem with them listing who they blocked and who had blocked them.

They're both blocked now. I reported them as well.

These are not community people.

And one is directly responsible for a young member leaving and proudly puts the name on the list.

Really fried my cookies.

ha fried my cookies thats great πŸ™‚

@irascible Thank you.

@sarahjustme You trolled a member so hard that they left.

The member had Aspberger's and most of us looked out for her. She was not Hi IQ.

I can't believe you'd publicly post her name.

@RavenCT that is interesting. No response from @sarahjustme. She is one of the people involved in this group? Do you have the g: # as I have not encountered it or its aims.

@sarahjustme And yet you posted her name? What is the point if she's left?

@FrayedBear "Getting blocked for fun and profit."

@RavenCT thanks

@sarahjustme A piece of work really, aren’t you?

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